Do I swipe right?!

[mrcattybiscuits]

I've seen a friend of mine is on a dating app I'm on. I've known him for almost 20 years, always fancied him but never had the guts to say anything as I don't want to risk losing the friendship. He's recently gone through a break up and is now over it. Do I swipe right?! That was I'll know if he has too. However if he has a premium account he could see I've swiped right even if he doesn't. I don't know if he has premium... I honestly feel sick right now as I don't know whether to risk it. He's a really good friend and I'd be devastated if he didn't feel the same and it fucked up our friendship so I've always just kept quiet about it.

defo swipe right and if it seems awkward just be like “just thought I’d say hi!”

Swipe right and at least you are taking a chance that you won’t get otherwise. You can always laugh about being on the same app if he is premium and didn’t match.

Aaaghhh I should I know I'll regret it if I don't but I don't want to regret it if I do!

Just play it off like it’s no big deal? Make him embarrassed to have taken it so seriously that he didn’t swipe right (if he doesn’t - I’m sure he’ll be up for a lil drink tho :p)

Don't swipe right. A long-term friend deserves to know how you feel, but not from a swipe. It's a bit cowardly.
I'd text and say 'hey. I see you're on Bumble. Hope it's going ok. Fancy a drink and a chat sometime?'
And take it from there.

I mean, you could just be swiping right as a friend to say hi so... doesn't have to be a big deal.

Don't overthink it.

Can anyone here help with the signs that he’s an upgraded member? Or is it an invisible thing?

I'm on Bumble - have Premium for one more day! - and am 90% sure it's invisible to everyone else.

We have a drink and a chat pretty much every week! I wish I could tell him to his face but the friendship is so good I'm too scared... maybe that is cowardly but I don't want to lose my friend.

Do it do!

If he doesn't swipe back or says something along the lines of 'we're just friends', just own it knowing you've given it a go been true to yourself. 'Can't blame a girl for trying' kinda vibe and leave it at that, doesn't have to be a big deal.

Good luck and please tell us what happens x x

Honestly, just do it. A potential go at love is worth risking so much.

personally I'd talk to him. Not swipe.

well actually I'd just make it obvious I fancied him, if he doesn't reciprocate then I'd go back to not making it obvious next time.

If you have a drink together ever week surely you would know if he ‘fancies’ you?