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Relationships

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how do you know when its over?and then what??

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moljam · 09/01/2008 20:34

how do you know that relationship has come to end and what do you do about it?just say sorry its over off you go please?

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sweetboy · 09/01/2008 20:36

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moljam · 09/01/2008 20:47

im trying.hes not and theres only so much you can do when other person isnt playing ball.last fathers day ,he did i big wrong,but that was just one thing-it haddent been great for ages.i stayed and have been trying because we have 3 children.i think im thinking about it as turn 30 in march and think am i really still in this relationship?my children are most important thing in my life.

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keepbelieving · 10/01/2008 09:20

if you get the answer let me know as I'm in a similar situation at the moment with my husband. did your husband/man used to be ok. mine did and now things are changing and if there's one thing that i was afraid of, it was that.

Baffy · 10/01/2008 10:09

I'd be interested in some advice on this too!

IrishMammyto2 · 10/01/2008 14:44

Ask yourself the question-
"Whats more scary, the next 20 years WITH or WITHOUT your dh/dp?
Your answer says it all....

Baffy · 10/01/2008 14:59

very good question

I suppose if I'm thinking the next 20years alone with ds is less scary than how things may be with dp... then I have my answer!

pagwatch · 10/01/2008 15:24

i quite like " if you knew then what you know now would you start dating ?"

MuthaHubbard · 10/01/2008 17:20

The thought of me being unhappy with h for another 15/20 years was what helped me decide.

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 10/01/2008 17:22

This is all so sad. When I thought my marriage was offer I panicked.

MuthaHubbard · 10/01/2008 17:26

I am actually more calm and feel better having made the decision. Which makes me think it's definitely the right one.

madamez · 10/01/2008 17:27

If you've asked for the other person to make some changes in his/her behaviour and they haven't done so, or have done so for a while then gone back to the habits you didn't like, then if it's something that really upsets you, you have to acknowledge that the person isn;t going to change because he/she doesn;t want to. And if you can't live with that, you will have to end the relationship.

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