Divorcing a Narcissist Support group

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I am divorcing and a friend send the book by Debbie Mirza, The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist. Sadly I recognise my ex in the entire story.

Most of the people around me really don't understand what divorcing this kind of person is like, and I could do with some emotional support, stories from others just to help me cope and stay strong.

Does anyone know of a support group for those divorcing someone with narcissistic tendencies?

I haven't read the book but what's your main problem, do you think? (I'll know there will be lots of problems).

I still live in the same house for now, and it's my aim to rebuild trust with my son. However it requires a superhuman effort from me to stay mature. Not get angry when DS says demeaning things (all parroting dad). Of course sometimes I DO get angry, which doesn't help in rebuilding trust. I end up going on long walks just to get rid of fury.

Then the other main problem is the pain and hurt and worry about my DS. He is the next victim. All his choices in the last 2 weeks have been about dad and showing loyalty to dad, as the poor man is such a victim.

I have fallen for that so many times. My entire life with him was about making allowances for him and parking my own needs just for now as he was having a tough time. Only to realise more recently that he will be having a tough time always. His problems are always bigger than anyone else's. It hurts to see my DS fall for that. I wish I could help him. I have bought a course and have read a book on how to help him, but there's not an awful lot you can do. Especially not as I am now the Bad Mother.

Just looking for a place to vent sometimes. Hear from others.

I have got support from parents and some good friends. I have a good psychologist and a financial planner, and we are starting first converation with our joint barristers tomorrow. And I feel confident that I am making the right choices overall. And still its extremely tough and painful.

There are a couple of Facebook groups for people in or having survived a narcissistic relationship.