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What to get my DP to say thank you

48 replies

Iceicebaby123 · 21/04/2022 00:28

My DP treats me like a princess all the time and I am so lucky.
his salary is much much larger than mine and he pays for everything all the time.
he has always been a provider and supported me whenever I have needed him. Not just financially but also emotionally.
I want to do something or buy something to say thank you to him for being amazing.
any ideas?

OP posts:

SweetSakura · 22/04/2022 23:00

One of those "best hubby in the universe" mugs?

iklboo · 22/04/2022 23:18

I don't think you're ready for this lil jellly..

CuriousCatfish · 22/04/2022 23:22

A six pack of socks.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 23/04/2022 00:14

Softleftpowerstance · 21/04/2022 12:42

All men appreciate power tools and golf clubs. Every single one.

what an odd post. 🙄

Not all men like golf

Cheeseycheeseycheesecheese · 23/04/2022 00:22

The adventure challenge?
There are a few of them. I got This one for dh for Christmas, it's 50 things to do, you scratch one off and do it, there's a whole variety from free to a bit of money.

SouperNoodle · 23/04/2022 00:24

A signed picture of Gareth Gates

Divebar2021 · 23/04/2022 00:40

you assume jealousy in other people because you imagine other women value finances and gifts in the same way you do. A lot of women don’t want to be paid for all the time - they enjoy making their own money. I’m not sure we can help you with a suitable thank you under the circumstances but a special meal or day out planned by you might be a good start.

NoddyMcdoddy · 23/04/2022 00:45

A Lamborghini of course

HeArInGhandsgirl11 · 23/04/2022 00:51

Op what about a nice night away ? Meal and fancy hotel.

It's nice that you want to do/ get something to show you appreciate him.

TheSpottedZebra · 23/04/2022 00:54

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 23/04/2022 00:14

Not all men like golf

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Yeah I think that was the point.

TooBigForMyBoots · 23/04/2022 00:58

Write him a poem.

FrydayFish · 23/04/2022 07:49

a baby

Wifflywafflywoo · 23/04/2022 08:10

I'm in a similar situation I guess. DP earns about 3x as much as me, we still split house bills 50/50 and I use what I have leftover for any spending I do, however our disposable income basically comes from him for bigger things like holidays, house improvements, treats etc. I found it a bit uncomfortable at first as I felt I was letting the side down in terms of bringing money in but he just laughs and calls it "house money".

We've been together about five years now and honestly the best way I find to treat him or make him feel special is to just do things that make us both happy like book weekends away to places we love where he can relax, book his favourite restaurant for date nights, foot and shoulder rubs, big cup of tea when he's crashed out on the sofa, making sure he always has socks and pants in his drawer (honestly sounds ridiculous but he just doesn't spend any time or money on himself on basic things like that) and yes, obviously he loves a blowjob and any other sexual attention I give him 😄. Also in the process of giving him his first baby so covering that one too as we speak. Not sure he'd want to adopt a frog though as a PP has suggested!

Try not to worry so much about spending a lot or looking for extravagant gifts, sometimes it's the little things that mean the most

Whooshaagh · 23/04/2022 08:19

@Wifflywafflywoo in your circumstances your dp could pay 75% of house bills if he earns 3 x more. That would be more equitable.
His disposable income must be huge.

Magenta82 · 23/04/2022 08:21

Your last rolo.

BumblebeeBum · 23/04/2022 08:23

A jar with little notes in it saying what you love about him?

Wifflywafflywoo · 23/04/2022 08:31

Whooshaagh · 23/04/2022 08:19

@Wifflywafflywoo in your circumstances your dp could pay 75% of house bills if he earns 3 x more. That would be more equitable.
His disposable income must be huge.

Ideally he'd like to pay 100% of the bills and have me keep my money for what I want but I'm stubborn and silly and refuse to not pay my 50%.

AnImaginaryCat · 23/04/2022 08:32

Combine some good ideas on this thread, and write him a poem about your last rolo.

Whooshaagh · 23/04/2022 08:33

@Wifflywafflywoo he sounds like a good man.

Wifflywafflywoo · 23/04/2022 08:37

@Whooshaagh He's lovely and I'm lucky to have him.

@Magenta82 Laughing at the last rolo ideas, I love him to bits but parting with that last rolo? That's a tough one! 😄

Velvian · 23/04/2022 09:08

@Wifflywafflywoo i think your DP is the one that has it made. You're subsidising 50% of a lifestyle that only he can afford.

I think that's is very generous of you.

Wifflywafflywoo · 23/04/2022 09:19

Strangely enough he slotted into my life in terms of house and bills, he moved in with me so the bills I pay 50% of are the same ones I paid in full whilst living on my own. I didn't want to move as I live right next to my family so he just came here and turned his commute into an hour each way instead of fifteen minutes 🫣

We are starting to house hunt though as with a baby we'll fast outgrow my little house and I know once we move in together things will change in terms of how we work our finances.

Maybe he does deserve my last rolo after all 😄

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 23/04/2022 09:44

@TheSpottedZebra

teaandtoastwithmarmite
Not all men like golf
Yeah I think that was the point.

😂 sorry. It was late

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