I'm really struggling today with a topic on a previous thread I put up that I can't access since the update last night 😩
My fiancé left at 30 weeks pregnant after his 8 year old spat at my teenage son for the third time. He's the one that bought the fridge, sofa and bed but left me without all 3 when he moved out a few days later, without checking I had somewhere to sleep in my home at 30 weeks pregnant.
I'm in touch with women's aid and the freedom programme to recognise abuse and to help me get the strength to cope with this all. There's so many things in that relationship that was emotionally abusive that I didn't see and thanks to the people of MN for starting to highlight it all which WA has continued.
The reason I'm struggling so much today is that I put scan appointments in a shared calendar that I created for him and I with just baby related appointments. With no contact from him (I even emailed to ask if he's seen the appointments) he's missed our first 2 appointments with the consultant whereas before I was midwife led. He doesn't know that I have gestational diabetes and what that means in terms of when I will now be induced. It hurts, I feel so sad for the baby 😔. A month ago we were good, happy (blindly maybe due to the abuse but i felt happy). I can't quite believe he's gone from that to not even wanting to attend appointments to do with the baby.
I came on to MN a couple of weeks ago stating that I was going to put him on the birth certificate etc and one of my friends is a family law solicitor so we even came up with a really fair contact arrangement ready to send him following these appointments about when baby will arrive if induced. Now I'm thinking he's going to have no care for her welfare in the womb but try and play dad of the year when she's out because he won't want to pay too much. I don't see a difference between attending these appointments when she's in the womb or caring for her when she's out!
I'm just really struggling with it all today. How on earth do you get over someone when one minute you're feeling one way then you're forced to do a U turn in your feelings and they show a completely different heartless side to them. It's really knocked me. Throw in later stages of pregnancy hormones and I'm all over the place.
Last time I posted here MN really helped and even highlighted some things I didn't realise which I took to WA so thank you. Just feel so sad tonight.