I'm in a mess! My husband of 19 years had suddenly started being overly protective over his phone. After weeks of spotting meesages with heart & kiss emojis I finally asked who he was messaging & he said no one. To cut a long story short, after literally wrestling his phone from him he'd been sending his new female work colleague messages on Whatsapp that he immediately deletes, but I managed to see a few: "did I not tell you that you look beautiful today" he's not called me beautiful in years especially as I've lost a lot of weight. After threatening to throw him out & calling her it's slowed down but in the last 5 days they're in contact again & he's deleting them again. He says I'm jealous, paranoid & crazy. He was remorseful for a few days but now he says he's done nothing wrong. I've always said - if nothing is going on then you would show the messages to prove that I am indeed being paranoid & silly. Am I being an idiot or would you get out? Previously if I'd been secretive with a male college messaging he'd of thrown me out especially if I was still doing it.
He's always likes every single one of her posts but missed mine when I got a promotion, mother's day etc etc.
He promised he'd make amends but I spent Easter in my lounge on my own as usual other than bedtime when he wanted sex it's the only time he's affectionate.
Feel like I'm going crazy !?! Am I wasting my time?