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his son took a creepy photo of me

9 replies

decleorparis · 20/04/2022 18:17

been dating this guy for a year now. it was my birthday few weeks ago and I got a birthday card from his adult son but the card was ordered on one of the card sites and had my picture on it. I did not pay much attention until my friend noticed that in this picture I do not pose and it looks like taken from a long distance and zoomed, I do not even look into the camera. then it made think when was that photo taken, a good 10 months ago at a small party. it all feels creepy now. on top of all that I do not feel particularly comfortable ever since I met him. just a vibe. my friend said that maybe he took this picture to show his mum how dad's new gf look like but still why then put that photo on my birthday card? Am I being overly sensitive?

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Myotherusernamewastakenagain · 20/04/2022 18:20

How do you know he took it and not your fella?

Shadow1986 · 20/04/2022 18:21

If it looks zoomed in, I imagine it’s more likely that you were in the background of a photo he took on the day of the party, and he’s cropped you in the picture to create the card, which makes you look zoomed in.

i think it’s quite sweet that he’s gone to the effort to do a personalised card but I might be missing something.

Crabjuice · 20/04/2022 18:22

Would it not be more plausible that you were in the background of a pic? Hence the weird zoomed in and not posing? Maybe he looked through photos of a day he knew you were there and thought that would do. Bit odd but not proper creepy imo

Fidgety31 · 20/04/2022 18:22

He made the effort to get you a personalised card and you find it creepy !
i think you are being very over sensitive

WrongWayApricot · 20/04/2022 18:23

Maybe he took a picture at a party and it was the only one he had with you in it, so cropped everyone else out? That would make the photo on the card look zoomed in and odd. However, I don't like cards that have those photos on, feels weird to have a photo of myself for my birthday. I'm not sure why people think it's a nice idea. A group photo or a normal card is much better imo.

If you get a weird vibe from this guy then trust it. But if you want to stay with his dad I'm not sure what you could do other than avoid being around when he is?

AntarcticTern · 20/04/2022 18:24

So the issue is that you weren't aware the photo was being taken? There's nothing creepy about the photo itself? I can't see a huge problem with that tbh.

PriamFarrl · 20/04/2022 18:32

Is it possible that he wanted to put a picture of you on the card but the only one he had was you in the background of another event?

Watchkeys · 20/04/2022 20:19

Have you spoken to you partner about it? If so, what did he say? If not, what's made you come to a forum first?

LeniGray · 20/04/2022 20:28

Is this a thing? Sending people a card with a picture of themselves on? Seems a little…. odd 😕I would find it a bit creepy, yes. Trust that vibe, trust your instincts.

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