Is it too late for a termination?

[BigRegret]

I'm 15 weeks. OH is physically abusive. I've been for a scan, I've seen the baby. But honestly deep down I dont think I love it or would love it as much as my son. After what's happened today I just want something to go wrong so I dont need to go through with it

Assuming you are in England it's not to late, but you are quickly running out of time.

You need to find a service local to you tomorrow and give them a ring.

Best of luck.

No it's not too late and it sounds like you need an out. Good luck xx

Do what is best for you

It’s not too late. If this is what you want, start making some calls tomorrow. Take your time and think it through after chatting to the professionals. If you want the baby but not the abusive arsehole, you might be able to make it work. If you need to make sure you are not tied to him in anyway, then a termination might be best.

Good luck.

I've been here. I booked in for termination when I was only a few weeks gone but it took til I was just over 12 weeks to actually access it. This was about ten years ago and I'd hope things have changed now.

If you ring Women's Aid they should be able to help advocate for you with this.

I'm so sorry.

Not to late.
Here's some info
www.bpas.org/abortion-care/considering-abortion/nhs-funded-abortions/

It’s not too late.

Are you safe OP?x

OP
You have to do what’s right for you.

Thank you, will look in to it

It's definitely not too late.
It may be that you have to go out of your area for one but it's doable. I support the Abortion Support Network for exactly this reason. Call wömen's aid tomorrow and get in touch with your GP. Time does not wait. Do not have this child by default. You have choices.

Call a clinic directly, you will need an assessment before an appointment, sooner you call the more time you have.

@SophieSoSo

Hes gone to work, I've just been cleaning up the mess hes made and trying to hold the tears back and keep myself composed, failing miserably.

Do you feel able to report this to the police and ask for a domestic violence protection notice (7 days) which a court can convert to an order (28days) to protect you and your son from him returning?

Please call Women's Aid and get you and your son to a safe place.

www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/

I'm trying to get things in order slowly and making plans.

Stopped cutting myself when I had my son, but today I contemplated doing it again because I need something more physically painful to take over this feeling of sheer shit.

@BigRegret I wish I could give you a hug.

Do you have any family or friends nearby that can help you?

What can we do to help you leave? You deserve so much more than this x

Is the mess he made from smashing up the house, can you call the police.

@SophieSoSo oh how I would love a hug.

No family and friends nearby.

I managed to get some sleep, which was a real comfort. Dont usually have dreams but dreamt of an ex who I loved. The dream seemed so real.

Woke up when heard the front door, thought he'd come back from his night shift. I dont know if its him because I cant hear him stomping around like usual. Ive tried calling him withheld but it says line busy, hes blocked my number on purpose. I have an appointment later but hes taken my car keys and house keys.

Would you consider calling the police OP? They would help you get your keys back. This sounds like a dangerous time for you. Unfortunately the risk of domestic abuse increases when women are pregnant. I think you should prioritise your immediate safety today and make some calls
so you have space to discuss your pregnancy when you are feeling safe. If not police, would you call one of the helplines to talk through what has happened and make plans for yourself?

When you do get your keys back, have spares cut and keep them secret.

I'm glad you got some sleep, but once you've sorted out your termination please phone WOmens Refuge for advice about your overall situation - you can't raise your son in those circumstances.

Primar

I’m very concerned about you OP, you are most vulnerable when you’re pregnant and when you’re trying to leave and at the moment both of those apply to you.

Do you have a midwife appointment today? Could you speak to her about what’s happened?

if you don’t feel ready to speak to the police, are you able to call womens aid?

Are you anywhere near the midlands? X

If you don’t manage to get to your appointment OP, call your midwife during your appointment time and tell her why. Tell her your partner is physically abusive. Tell her he smashed up the house last night and took your car keys and house keys to stop you leaving today. Because abuse often appears or worsens during pregnancy, midwives have a protocol to follow when a woman discloses something like this. They will help you.

And in the UK abortion for any reason is legal up until 24 weeks (maybe 23weeks 6 days?).

You need to phone the police, tell them the abuser smashed up the house and has locked you in. This male needs to be kept away from your kid.