My partner and his ex

[holly12435]

Hey girls!

So I have a topic I want to talk about. My partner has a ex girlfriend and they have a child together. Her and her partner had an argument and she called my partner to tell him what happened. She text him New Years telling us happy New Years ( he ignored ) and he ordered his daughter an iPad and was going to get his ex come to our house and let herself in to get it ( when no one was there) there's just little things like this what really bugs me. It's fine if they speak about their daughter just I don't want them talking about other things? I've told him this bugs me. Am I over thinking or is it red flags.. xx

I think this needs to be in relationships, ask MN to move it over for you x

Hi I'm new to this so I'm not sure where to post! How do I ask xx

That’s ok I’ve reported it to MN for you and asked them to move it over.

You’ll get more responses over there x

I don’t see the problem. Her texting him to say Happy New Year is still bugging you now? It’s April.

I think it’s controlling to say they should only ever communicate about their child and nothing else.

Hiii, thanks for you let opinion, what else would they need to talk about.. x

HI OP, we will move it for you now.

I have two children with my ex-husband. We had a marriage for over ten years. He has a key to my house and runs errands for me or helps in the house somedays as lives locally. I help him out sometimes too. We are not in a sexual relationship, but just friends who are co-parenting children. I wouldn't want to be married to him anymore, and we work better as friends. If any of my ex-boyfriend's or current man objected to me talking to my ex, having him in the house or going to the pub with him occasionally...they would be gone out of my life without a second thought. The friendship makes our children feel happy and secure. I could not be in a relationship with anyone I didn't trust or who did not trust me. I would always put the best interests of my children first.

It depends what kind of relationship they have now and on what terms they parted.
I believe that having a child together is a super strong bond and if people are on friendly terms, it works better for everyone.
My parents divorced over 20 years ago, I'm over 40 and in theory they have nothing to talk about now but they still keep in touch and speak on the phone etc. from time to time. They both have new partners, they all know each other, they're not friends but on rare occasions that they meet up, they can have a civilized chat.
From a perspective of a child who's parents divorced, I really do appreciate how they are.
I think there's s reason your DP is not with his ex but you so try to relax and not worry about it.
And I really don't understand why wishing happy NY or Christmas or occasionally having a chat is supposed to be unacceptable.

If she was a nice girl then maybe. She's threatened me. Turned up to the house banging on the door. She's not a toxic person..maybe im just over thinking it. Thanks for the comments

**she is a toxic person

She shouldn't have a key to your house if you didn't agree to it.