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Time to cut out a friend?

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Travelholic246 · 19/04/2022 20:24

I have a female friend (I am also female) I have known for 7yrs, used to regularly meet up & stay in touch and thought we had a good friendship, but recently she has cancelled the last 3 times we had plans, all last minute. I have tried to be there for her, ensure she is ok & has support. Now after inviting me & my partner to her wedding day nearly 2yrs ago, she has rescinded the invite by text saying we're only able to go to the evening part due to her needing to get guest numbers down. Not sure what to do but feel I get nothing from this friendship any longer. Thoughts?

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Walkingalot · 19/04/2022 22:05

It could be a genuine need to minimise, so on it's own it wouldn't bother me too much. However, when was the last time you actually saw her or had a proper chat (excl messages)? If you've grown distant then declining the invite will probably be the end of it.

seensome · 19/04/2022 22:15

Yes time to cut her out, I wouldn't put up with last minute cancellations too often and downgrading your invite is a bit of an insult, I'd decline it.

BlueFkingTicks · 19/04/2022 22:17

Just let your friendship fizzle out - it sounds like it pretty much has anyway.

I would go to the evening do, then not bother with her after

Maydaysoonenough · 19/04/2022 22:19

Phew dfriend that's fine, we were just working out how to tell you we had double booked...

Smackthepony · 19/04/2022 22:34

Accept the invitation and then cancel at the last minute!

Joking of course. I would let it fizzle out. Cancelling at the last minute without good reason just once is poor form but 3 times!!! As the saying goes, friends are for a reason, a season or a life time. This one falls in one of the first 2. Time to let it go.

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