I'm not really sure where to post, this could possibly be an AIBU I suppose. Has anyone ever had the feeling that they just don't fit in or really get on with members of your close or extended family?
Whenever we (DH and kids) go and see my mum and step-dad, I just spend the entire time feeling irritated and resenting them. They haven't done anything wrong necessarily, they are just not the parents I'd hoped they would be. We lead different lifestyles, they drink a lot, are quite unhealthy for their age and generally have a negative outlook on life (everything is too difficult, too much of a challenge, 'oh I can't possibly do that' etc). They do try and make an effort with the GC, but don't really take any initiative and will just let them watch TV for hours (I'm not against TV at all, just not all day everyday).
I've tried to speak to them about improving their health countless times but nothing changes and I've realised it's not my responsibility to check up on them/nag. I could go on, I just don't really know how much more I can tolerate. I don't really enjoy their company as we have so little in common. Is this normal in families?
(for context, currently on a family holiday with them and all the bad feelings are exacerbated!)