Husband and lack of control

[ohdofukoff]

When my husband is falling asleep / asleep / he seems unable to control the way he reacts and is always angry. So if I move or go to plug my phone in or some other thing that he finds irritating he speaks to me very gruffly, tells me to F off etc. He doesn't remember the next day and when I tell him, he apologises.
We are on holiday at the moment and he had to share a bed with our 11 year old, who poked him to wake him because he was snoring loudly. He shouted 'fucking hell' at her and went back to sleep, she cried for most of the night. She just told me this morning.
I've obviously said to my daughter that it is unacceptable for someone to speak to her like that and tried to explain that it doesn't excuse it but that Daddy wouldn't have meant to upset her. I haven't yet spoken to my husband yet.
How would you deal with this?

If you think he's telling the truth and he is doing it while half asleep, then there's nothing you can do other than ensure your child doesn't share hsi bed ever again.

And he should be apologising and explaining to her today.

Sadly if he's not like this when awake then he really won't be doing this on purpose. I'm a terrible sleep walker and talker, the only times I remember any of it is if I actually wake up during it, but even then people have to tell me what I've said. I would however not have my daughter in the bed again, as it has clearly upset her. Has he apologised to her yet and explained?