Confused by female co worker

[Confusedguyaspies]

First off before I go into detail I want to let readers know I have Aspergers. Background situation girl that started at work a few months ago would often ask " what am I doing after work ? " I interpreted it as just making conversation. A few weeks ago she asked me the same I told her " just going to a fast food diner " she replied " can I join you if it wouldn't be cramping your style ? " I said " sure I don't mind ".she drove me to the diner and drove me home. Last week she offered me lifts home again I told her " i had other plans after work " she offered me a lift twice more and said " last chance " . As I was walking she drove past me and waved. Now here is the reason I mentioned I have aspergers I don't have good social skills and I'm clueless at interpreting if a girl is Just being friendly or actually romantically interested in me. From what I wrote about my female co worker does she seem interested or just being friendly ?

It's impossible for us to tell because it's nuanced, but stay away from people who make you feel confused. Relationships are about clear communication, so people who make you feel like you have to second guess aren't compatible.

From your description she sounds interested beyond just being friendly. How do you feel about her though?

I'd say it's likely, but I'm sure she would not be offended if you asked her directly. Explain you find it hard to read people - she obviously wants to get to know you.

Sounds just like being friendly to me .

She's interested in more than friendship.

@Watchkeys

It's impossible for us to tell because it's nuanced, but stay away from people who make you feel confused. Relationships are about clear communication, so people who make you feel like you have to second guess aren't compatible.

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Unless you feel 100% its just not a thing

@Watchkeys

It's impossible for us to tell because it's nuanced, but stay away from people who make you feel confused. Relationships are about clear communication, so people who make you feel like you have to second guess aren't compatible.

Did you even read the op? They clearly state that they have Asperger's. It can be very difficult for people with Asperger's to read other people, especially one's "nuance", or to even manage "clear communication", especially with someone they don't know well. That's why they are asking for opinions and insight.

Are you interested and what are you going to do about it? No one can say for sure what her intentions are, if you like her ask her out on a date if not decline her self invites.

@Aquamarine1029

Yes, I read the OP. I'm not suggesting that OP try to read nuances.

I don't think you read my post properly.

Nobody can give an informed opinion or insight on OP's situation; it's the sort of situation where you have to be there. As indicated by pps, where opposing answers have been given consecutively.

Does she know you have Aspergers?

If not, it might be worth mentioning that you sometimes struggle with picking up subtle social cues and its easier if people are explicit with you.

She’s interested in more then co-working relationship that’s for sure.

Yes, I would say she’s interested romantically.

I interpret her saying “last chance” as meaning it’s your turn to ask her now and that if you don’t then she will assume you aren’t interested.

So if you are interested, ask her.

Does she know you have Aspergers? (Asking because if she doesn't she might not realise you're not picking up on what she probably thinks are clear signals she’s sending you and hence why she said “last chance”.)

[quote Watchkeys]@Aquamarine1029

Yes, I read the OP. I'm not suggesting that OP try to read nuances.

I don't think you read my post properly.

Nobody can give an informed opinion or insight on OP's situation; it's the sort of situation where you have to be there. As indicated by pps, where opposing answers have been given consecutively.[/quote]
I did read your post properly. You advised the op to "stay away from people who make you feel confused." For people with Asperger's, that can be literally be everyone, especially people they are just getting to know. NT people can have trouble reading new acquaintances, FFS.

@Aquamarine1029

I don't need Asperger's explaining to me, thanks, and you're not the authority here.

Sorry for the derail, OP.

@seensome

Are you interested and what are you going to do about it? No one can say for sure what her intentions are, if you like her ask her out on a date if not decline her self invites.

If next time she offers me a lift or self invites I plan to ask her " is this a date or just two people hanging out ? " .

Alternatively you could invite her out for a drink or a meal after work.

@Confusedguyaspies good plan, or invite her? hope it goes well.

Since the day she offered me a lift and said " last chance " she has being very distant with me since; needles to say its looks like I blew any possible chance with her.