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Is it ever OK to date two guys at the same time?

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Purpledragon0 · 18/04/2022 15:21

Here me out..
Matched with two guys on tinder..
Met them both.
Like them both..
Have only been on one date with each but I'd like to see them both again and see how it goes.
I like them both equally. One is a little more suited to me as in common interests etc but the other is so far away from the usual type I go for I was surprised how well we got on.
When I say date. I just mean go out with etc, I wouldn't get physical with both!
Is it ever OK?

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Smartiepants79 · 18/04/2022 15:23

Do they both know?
If so, I’d say that was ok for a few dates.
Not ok to string them along or do it behind their backs though.

HirplesWithHaggis · 18/04/2022 15:24

I don't see why not, you haven't had any exclusivity chats with either.

biggreenhouse · 18/04/2022 15:26

totally fine if you haven't had the discussion about being exclusive with either.

Casper001 · 18/04/2022 15:29

I think after about 3/4 dates you can determine if one of them may go somewhere.

Probably fine until then as they may be doing the same

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Purpledragon0 · 18/04/2022 15:30

No chats about exclusivity with either.. I just wonder about when it comes to stopping seeing and talking to one of them.

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Yellowhighheels · 18/04/2022 15:30

Yes! With OLD its usual to be meeting more than one person at once as you've no idea who they are to start with. Have another date or so with each then if you get more interested in one then discuss exclusivity and end things with the other. I personally don't like being physical with more than one at once.

losingtheplotslowly · 18/04/2022 15:54

Go for it. You aren’t doing anything wrong. It’s quite normal to do this nowadays. Wish I had a choice of 2 And wouldn’t be surprised if they are doing the same.

Pinkbonbon · 18/04/2022 16:03

Of course, it's dating.

You can date right up until you have the exclusivity talk with one or sleep with one.

Probably best not to for that long though. 3 dates each though easily.

Opaljewel · 18/04/2022 16:05

It seems to be norm multidating now until you find someone to be exclusive with.

Kick it up a notch, date five at a time.

TedMullins · 18/04/2022 16:23

You’ve only had one date with each of them, of course it’s fine! Totally normal. Give them both a chance and then reassess if you feel like something is developing more with one over the other.

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Purpledragon0 · 18/04/2022 17:31

I'm going to see both again and then reassess. The one who isn't my usual type is just really intriguing and want to find out more but the other one just ticks every box in what I'd usually go for. Don't want to make a poor choice so I need to make more inquiries 🤣

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nomistake · 18/04/2022 17:33

Yes that's what dating is. You don't become exclusive after one date, that would be weird

southern15029048683 · 18/04/2022 17:37

As long as you've not agreed to be exclusive with either then it's fine. Enjoy

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