Husband of 10 year been together 16

[Amycarl06]

So my husband has just turned around and said he doesn't love me which I get people fall out of love but apparently there is no reason but thinks it nothing changed bewteen us and what's to carry on the way we have been Like I don't get it and know there more but he planning things to do in and around the house but then expect me to roll over and be like its fine I don't look ove you but yeah give me sex and then even wants to live out his cuckolding fantasy like what do I do, do I carry on as normal or do I just leave my house that I've worked hard to get knowing I will never own my own house again or do I stay and just act as normal as we can, we have kids together but I just don't think it a good environment for them to be in as in, I am miserable over thinking this was his plan all along to get this house and then be entitled to half.

Sorry that's a bit hard to follow. Personally, leave him. He's said he doesn't love you, don't waste your time on him anymore

I've left him in my head but he saying we still together and if I leave I have no where to go.

You deserve 100%. He doesn't love you so don't continue to play wife to him. He doesn't love you but I bet he loves being looked after etc. No chance you could be so much happier either on your own or with someone that sees your worth.

He needs to leave. Tell him, firmly.

The house is a marital asset and you have children so it makes sense for you to stay and him to go. Get legal advice tomorrow. Do you work? If you don't have a job, you need one. How old are your children?

It's important you and he don't share a house or you'll end up having sex. He's told you he doesn't love you. If you let him access your body you'll feel used.

His cuckolding fantasy? He wants you go go with other men? No. There'll be time enough for that when the divorce comes through and you know for certain where you're living. Don't let him con you into anything. Better a few months celibacy than playing the pick-me dance.

Time to be hard, time to be strong. For you and your children.

Thank you I know I do and I just feel like, I've done so much like it wasn't the best relationship to be in, very controling althought he never directly told me not to do this and that if I did certain things like make up, when out with friends they was always a arguement and after so long it made me stop doing all that but I had kids and quite liked been in with the kids and me going out with friends dint matter and he left me 3 years ago as he feel for someone else but then lockdown happened and we got back together and then he strung a cuckolding on me and I said I would try and fulfil his fantasy but never did and even though I dint like the thought I tried to be open minded on it and then when he told me he didn't love me I said I wouldn't be doing that so do not expect it from me either but I am in two minds, he won't leave and I just don't think either but oh I don't know very wierd strange place to be in, I aren't that bothered he said that as I've been expecting it, it the sheer disrespect he has for me like really it mind blowing how someone can just treat people like this and I think he wants his cake and to eat it but I aren't giving in to him

Go go should be 'to go'. You can 'go go' with them if you like, but I doubt you're old enough to remember what that is.

Women's Aid. He's controlling. You need help. Give them a ring.

I do work full time I am lucky enough to have school hours to work full time, yes I did it a few years back when we lived together but wasn't he just used me for sex and I let him and I am assuming he trying to do the same again but I will not be letting him use me like that again it dint pay off well for me just got me back in to a relationship with him for him to just do the same and I've not give in so far so see how long he can last with out it.

No I don't quite get what that means lol but yeah he has been controlling me for years and I've let him