What do you and DP do on an evening?

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Especially if you have young children so can't go out? How do you spend your evenings?

We mainly do separate things and the only thing I can think of doing together is watching a programme and most of the time I'd rather just watch something else. What do you do to keep things from being boring?

DIY
Playing board games/card games
Watching TV
Computer games
Reading
Nothing super exciting TBH. We get a babysitter about once a fortnight to spend some time together doing something more fun

In the week we watch box sets of shows we both enjoy. DH spends time researching as he hates normal TV. On a Friday night we listen to music and have a few beers. On Saturday we tend to watch a film in our bedroom with a take away so the kids stay up later and watch a film in the lounge. This has been our routine for a good few years now and we are both very happy with it.

Watch TV, eat dinner together, sit and talk to each other, might have a drink. We don't go out that much, maybe once every couple of months. To be honest I don't really get that bored. I'm always tired by the evening and like to do relaxing things. As long as we're together I'm happy.

We cook dinner together (well he cooks and I sit on the bench and watch) and I ask him about his day/work/anything we have coming up. Sometimes have a bit of music on and if it's a Friday we'll have a glass of wine. Then it's just catching up on our TV shows together, I'll make him a cuppa and we'll share some choccy or a few biscuits then off to shower and bed. We're usually in bed by 8 or 9pm to watch more catch-up TV or read then it's podcast on and sleep. We have our first baby due next month so let's see how different out nights become then 😄

He sits in the kitchen doing his job paperwork or reading the paper and I sit in the lounge watching telly. The most interaction we'll have is "do you want a coffee?" & "Right, I'm off to bed now, night" --
Yep, I know. You don't need to point it out.--

We take it in turns to put the 2yr old to bed, most of the time we eat with her at 5ish but sometimes we have a "special" meal she won't eat together once she's in bed. Then half the time we settle down for the evening to watch TV/listen to music together with the baby (she's 8wks) and the rest of the time we take it in turns to have the baby while the other person has "me time" - I'm either in the bath or sewing, he's in his workshop doing gardening stuff or DIY. Then we go up to bed together, he reads on his phone while i feed the baby and we usually have a snuggle and a chat in the dark once the baby is down. Once in a blue moon there might even be sex!

It doesn't sound very exciting at all, but it is honestly so lovely in the evenings round ours at the moment.

We've no kids. We get home from work, have some tea, watch a bit of telly and then get in bed and read. If it's not a work day the next day we'll go to the pub. Sometimes we do a cinema night and get some popcorn in. We both used to go to the gym as well, before covid hit; unfortunately it closed and we haven't found another one. When the weather is nice I go out walking or on my bike while DH catches up on stuff I don't want to watch!

DH listens to the radio, I read or scroll mumsnet.
Occasionally we get into a box set and will binge that over a few days/weeks but usually do our own thing. It's only a few hours between DCs going to bed and me going to bed. DH stays up late and watches documentaries when the radio goes off at midnight.
Yes, we're dull!

He is glued to his laptop or football. I go to bed and read. Rinse and repeat.

We put 3YO to bed together, I cook dinner and we have a chat, then DW takes dinner around to her Nan (5 nights of the week) and comes back home, we eat dinner together on sofa watching telly, watch a bit more telly / take care of life admin together, then DW washes up and I head upstairs to get stuff ready for next morning (unless I am asleep on sofa by this point!). Saturdays I either cook something a bit special or get a takeaway and we watch a film.
It sounds a bit boring, but we like it. The daytime is so hectic that I really can't be bothered with DIY or hobbies in the evening- I would rather get up early to do stuff! We go out every couple of months as a couple (would do more if we had money / childcare) and I go out with friends for an evening about once a month 😊

Dh is a pc gamer and his desk is set up in the livingroom, so he's usually on that and I read. Sometimes we watch a movie, but 9 times out of 10 he's gaming and I'm reading/mn/watching rubbish TV (or passed out upstairs after putting ds to bed) we talk on and off about alsorts.

DH does exercise, I cook dinner and clean and iron. Sort the children out. We eat and then watch tv, stare at our phones. Sometimes I read. Boring really.

I exercise, DH games. We sometimes game together. We sometimes watch TV. Not much else.

After the DC go to bed we usually sort stuff out (talk through home renovations) and then at 9 or so I light a few candles and we get stuck into Netflix or a film 🎥
It's the best way to unwind for us. We have similar taste so it'd easy to pick something and we like talking it over

Sometimes we get a babysitter but not often

Isn't it interesting how people are saying the same stuff, then saying how they enjoy it, but then feeling like they have to add how boring it is. We're exactly the same! But this shows that we're happy with it, that the chats and the dinner and the reading and the getting things ready for the next day is actually the lovely, calming, grounding rythme of our lives.

Eat cheeseburgers together, browse Fetlife and then go to bed for a mutual rimming session.

We eat tea as a family, watch one or two tv shows. Then he does some work as he's self employed without enough hours in the day and I go upstairs with our baby.

It depends, we have a baby, so a lot of the focus is on her. Generally we’ll play a boardgame, do sodoku, watch something together, play nintendo together. If we’re tired and the baby is fairly settled we’ll have a bath together. If its a night my son has rugby or dance then we don’t do much as we don’t have time.

Watch box sets together and drink gin

Catch up on the day together. Watch some telly (there's usually some TV drama we're following, otherwise old faithfuls we can fall back on). If we're feeling energetic / summer evenings, some gardening or DIY.

Some interesting responses. A lot of people not doing much but enjoying it and I guess that's because you enjoy each other's company. I sometimes think I feel a bit indifferent in that way 😕 not sure that's a good thing.

He watches something on the ipad, I dip in and out whilst scrolling mumsnet. Suits us both well! (we have youngish kids- the toddler is up at the crack of dawn, and full-on all day, but the 11yo doesn't go to bed until 9. So my husband and I have pretty much an hour to ourselves most evenings)

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Eat cheeseburgers together, browse Fetlife and then go to bed for a mutual rimming session.

Brilliant

We both go to the gym or if not a might do a river walk and sit in a beer garden. Chat, sit in the garden, plan holidays, chat, go out for tea occasionally. Watch TV and have the odd drink. We both meet friends/family mid week too

We are not always together as DH works shifts. Kids all grown and gone.

But if we are in, then someone cooks, we eat together and chat about the day, the other one clears away.

Then DH watches/listens to music while I practice piano and/or read for a couple of hours.

We usually watch something together at 9pm, although we might listen to music instead.

Once a week or so we will meet after work for the theatre/cinema/an evening exhibition followed by a meal (or just go to the pub) with friends or just us.

Rock and roll! Content enough though, on the whole.