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Ignorant

8 replies

Oscarbin · 17/04/2022 18:16

My boyfriend is so ignorant with texts.

For example on a weekend he will hardly be in touch as he is constantly out with his friends. I am not a insecure person but this makes me feel awful.

I went out with the girls. I heard nothing. Had not responded to my texts but he had been online I just went mad and called him ignorant. Now he has just opened this and ignored me.

Now I feel guilty and I don't know why.

Is this a "I can't be arsed!" Or some sort of
Emotional backlash?

I am questioning everything at the moment.

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KirstenBlest · 17/04/2022 18:25

You aren't right for each other. Let him go.
Work on your self-esteem and only date when you are capable of setting boundaries in a relationship

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Oscarbin · 17/04/2022 18:32

I think I am so scared of being lonely. I put up with anything. But yesterday was so dam right rude.

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Meltedwellie · 17/04/2022 18:34

Maybe you're feeling guilty cos you're being a bit batshit crazy. Chill out. You say he will hardly be in touch, so he is in touch just not as much as you demand. If I wasn't seeing someone on a weekend I would expect them to contact me once or twice and get on with my own weekend.

KirstenBlest · 17/04/2022 18:40

I put up with anything.
You need to be able to be a whole person on your own.

bellalou1234 · 17/04/2022 18:48

I would be hurt its rude not responding to texts. I'd move on. Your feeling bad with him, you can cope without him.

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Oscarbin · 17/04/2022 18:49

@Meltedwellie

I always feel guilty 24/7.

I only called him ignorant and that was it. Not like I've went to his door or anything

He does not like confrontation. Seems to like his mates more too.

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Sunnytwobridges · 17/04/2022 19:26

I hate to say it but I don’t think he’s that into you. I will say when I stop being into a person I don’t think to text them regularly either because I’m not really thinking about them like that anymore.

I think you should end it as you will be lonely regardless. But if you’re no longer with him then you have better chance of meeting someone else.

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Oscarbin · 17/04/2022 19:48

He's into me when it's not the weekend!

It's sad really

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