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Advice for ending relationship

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Funnybunnyfluff · 17/04/2022 11:23

I have been with my husband over 15 years. Have a 2 year old but we have become friends the last couple of years we have drifted apart.

We don't argue but we also don't spend much time together. I want change my life now. I need more and feel I love him as a friend not a lover.

I am training for a new job which will be great in the end but still training and need his income to pay the bills at the moment. I don't want to wait any longer.. he said he would leave but I can't afford the bills on my own yet, his a good man and I definitely don't think he would leave us in the shit but I can't be sure.

Are there any form of benefits I can get to help and support me for a few months while I build up my job to a good level? Am I better off seeking advice from a solicitor.

Any advice is welcomed, just want to be happy again.

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Shehasadiamondinthesky · 17/04/2022 11:29

Divorce opens a big can of worms, people get angry and you can't guarantee they won't do their best to make life as hard as possible for you. I was shocked by what my second husband was capable of.
He had always been so quiet and mild mannered and suddenly I did not recognise him.
I'm just thankful we had no children together.
Must you leave now? Personally I think it's vital to be able to support yourself before you leave.
Living on benefits is miserable and if you are living in a mortgaged home you'll get no housing benefits.

Funnybunnyfluff · 17/04/2022 11:43

Yes it's a mortgaged home.

You know when you just feel that your just so fed up and feel that I'm just done. I'm not sure i can continue much longer. 🙈 yes I can't guarantee he won't turn either as I am sure he will be very hurt.

I'm stuck arnt I really?

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