Flatmates new “fling” - always here

[pearlybeauty]

My flatmate met a boy about 2/3 weeks ago. She has a tendency to cling fast. Since then he’s been round every single time I’ve been here, I’ve not seen her on her own. She has gone out once with a friend but ended up coming back with him. He stays round, and is leaving his clothes here. They’re not even a proper couple yet.

I have a boyfriend who stays round one evening per week and sometimes on the weekend (or I’ll go there). She’s moaned at me before that he’s here too much (2/3 nights per week).

Yet the minute this boy has come into the scene I haven’t yet seen her on her own. They’re not even official yet and this happened from the minute they went on a date. I don’t know whether to say something but it’s getting tiring already. Worst part is he’s barely said two words to me despite me being polite and trying to make conversation.

When do I say something?

@Suprima

I’d stir the pot and query why she never goes to his with a concerned face.

“Oh, doesn’t want you to meet his flatmates?”
“Could a girlfriend be living there?”
“Too messy?”
“Doesn’t want to tidy up for you?”

Savagery!

THIS!

Also I’d wonder why he hasn’t made it official since he seems so comfortable around her? When is he going to?

Why hasn’t he cooked for her like any nice gentleman would?

My word! He hasn’t brought you any gifts for the place! Not even flowers….pity that.

Well, it’s like our friends say….. nevermind, I know your happy with his treatment of you.

All said normally.

I’d have my boyfriend stay every single night he was there.

I’d go DEEP passive aggressive because it’s actually the most aggressive way to get thru to her.

Because once this piece of crap leaves her high and dry, you’ll be the one holding her when she cries. You’ll be the one to help her pick up the pieces.

If that doesn’t work for you I’d suggest a meeting to decide how many times boyfriends could stay over. It costs you both time, stress, and money to host these men. Don’t be a bunch of stupid women who get used.

Lastly , I’ll say this. If you show outright contempt or aggression it will only bring them together.

Best wishes OP, I hope this ends well!