How do I find a therapist?

[90sgirlxx]

I have just ended a relationship 2 days ago with a man I've had alot of lows with. Not my fault. It just turned out he's a walking angry man that's confused me massively. He was an alcoholic before I knew him. He's got no family around him. No good friends. He's depressed and struggles. Possibly a liar too. Possibly capable of cheating and certainly has female drama around him.
I have been fooled and gradually discovered stuff.

But I am confused and feel maybe I need someone to help me see what's happened to me.

I can't get joy out of normal life anymore and don't feel content. Not sure where to turn.

Where do I start?

Sorry to hear your experience.
Counselling Directory is a good place to start. You can filter by location and what you're looking for support with etc.
Don't be afraid to trial a few different counsellors until you find the one you connect with.

I was poor and absolutely and completely completely desperate. I tried to get a student counsellor for reduced rates. That was pretty crap let me tell you - the arrogance of the profession was shocking to deal with but I was so beaten down i could barely protest but did move on v quickly that said - I met mostly their teachers and tutors though, 😠

You have to try a few is my view, unless you are lucky first time. A good fit. You will know I think, though obviously there are random factors. I did find a good qualified psychotherapist, one who gave me a reduced rate …. eventually. We had our ups and downs but he was a hope and light in a dark world believe me.

Might be easier now - who knows - this was 15 years ago.

Good luck.

BACP keep a register, or try Relate in your area . I hope you feel better soon.

Hi - if you want to talk to a professional then look at membership of an accredited body.

Counsellors are one option.

Life Coaches & Hypnotherapists are another… I deal with lots of situations like you describe.

Julia

Find people who are members of the BACP by searching the website. Make sure you go to someone qualified and ring round, try to see if you can make any personal connection, and go to someone with whom you have had a trial session and you feel comfortable with.

Hypnotherapists are not really about working through things yourself though …

Search locally and read their websites to see if you “click”. Often they offer a free first session or an extended first session to get to know each other.
I started with one and after a few weeks realised he didn’t work for me so I changed and I adore the woman I’m seeing now.

A good therapist will get you to see the reasons you made the bad choices i the first place. Hope it goes well for you…

Your GP should be able to recommend something