What would you do?

[Whatwouldyoudo23]

I matched with a guy on tinder at the start of lockdown. Due to the pandemic we never met up and he went back to his home country. We remained in contact sporadically but the last six months this picked up and we speak daily. Nothing romantic but laughs, political, music, everything. It didn’t cross my mind this could be anything as I was In and out of dating other people.

The last few weeks we’ve both admitted we get on like a house on fire and we thought sod it let’s meet up.

Would I be bonkers to fly over to see him, not expensive flights I’d get a hotel, sort of see It as a well needed mini break?

It would be better if he came over to see you really. More chivalrous than expecting you to go to him.

Yes, it would be bonkers. He comes to see you first.

Agree with above but if you treat it primarily as a mini break for yourself you have nothing to lose.

We were going to meet in the middle (France) but I work remotely and he works 6 days a week that was the only reason! But I hear you all

I’m not assuming this will be loves young dream (I’m not even young!) but more just as a sod it it could be a laugh/funny story type thing!

Do you speak on the phone daily or is it just texting/ messenger ?

We speak, video call, send pictures of our lives like look at this, I was gardening yesterday and we were talking for four hours whilst I was doing it, that’s when we said maybe we should do this over a drink, and logistics talk happened.

He’s not pressuring or anything, it’s sort of went from it’s a shame we can’t meet up to we can it’s just a 3 hour plane type conversation, if that makes sense?

meet halfway sounds a plan - bit bonkers but

If you quite fancy a trip to wherever he lives then why not! See it as going on a mini break to see a pal, not a first date.

Obv make sure your accommodation, transport from the airport etc is all arranged beforehand, you're not reliant on him for lifts or anything. Also have an idea of where is safe and well-connected to meet.

If you did feel a spark then you need to be very honest with yourself about whether you would be open to long distance/ moving and expectations for reciprocal visits but if it's just a mini-adventure then I quite like the idea. No harm in making a new friend who lives abroad.

Why not? Meeting in the middle sounds reasonable.

It’s totally a case if I’d like a bit of an adventure and anything else is a bonus- if I spend the weekend alone that’s totally fine!

Life is short and all that I guess, right off to check skyscanner……!!

Not bonkers at all. Have adventures. But be safe.

Do it! I have, he was lovely. I flew to his home city for our first face to face meeting. I treated it like a mini break and booked a beach hotel, found things to do in the area etc as if it were a normal holiday on my own.

I didn't tell him where I was staying initially, I just booked somewhere on his side of the city. We met up for coffee one day and then lunch another and went from there. I'd never been to the city before but love the area.

Do it if you're the kind of person who likes your own company, in case it goes tits up and you're on your own after meeting him for a couple of hours etc.

Tell someone where you are and make sure they know his name and what he looks like - also make sure he knows this. If he's decent he'll understand.