Am I being daft?

[Worriedpartner1]

I'm slim, I wouldn't say skinny but I am slim. I'm tall, 5 ft 10 and a size 12 clothing.

I know the height is fine but my boyfriend is constantly looking at pictures and videos of much bigger women. He looks at and likes the videos on tik tok, bigger women's pictures on Facebook, he even googles them and watches born with bigger women.

Anytime I'm bothered about my weight he just says it doesn't matter if I put weight on which I thought was him just being nice and trying to reassure me that he likes me for me. But now I can't help but think it's because he would like it if I was bigger.

I'm currently 24 weeks pregnant, the only thing that's grown is my belly. I'm managing to not put weight on other than the obvious baby in my belly. But he wants to see me with my clothes off more than ever at the moment.

I don't know if I'm just being insecure or if really looks wise, I'm not really what he goes for. His exs are all bigger too🙃

He’s with you, so clearly you are what he goes for looks wise. Demonstrably so.

I’d have more of a problem with my partner sitting around looking at women’s photos, googling them and watching porn. Regardless of what the women look like, this is gross behaviour.

As PP said, the fact your partner is sat ogling other women is vile. Their size and yours aren't relevant. It's just a really immature and disrespectful thing to do.

It sounds as though he prefers bigger women and is making sure you know it. Please just be you. Don't try to change your size to please him, and don't let him make you feel insecure.

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constantly looking at pictures and videos of much bigger women. He looks at and likes the videos on tik tok, bigger women's pictures on Facebook, he even googles them and watches born with bigger women.

It's not the body type of the women that would bother me. It's the fact he sits around looking at pictures of other women!!! How disrespectful! Would he be happy if you did this?

He looks at other women all the time and hints to you that he’d quite like you to gain weight? Why are you with this dickhead? Tell him if he gets a penis extension you wouldn’t mind, or even better, dump his disrespectful ass, get some self-respect and model that to your child instead. You’ll end up a single parent sooner or later anyway judging by his behaviour.

He doesn't know I know about the videos and things. It's my own fault for actually checking to see. Wish I hadn't because now all I do is think about what I saw and don't know how to approach it without saying "I looked at your phone because I knew you were hiding something"

@Worriedpartner1

He doesn't know I know about the videos and things. It's my own fault for actually checking to see. Wish I hadn't because now all I do is think about what I saw and don't know how to approach it without saying "I looked at your phone because I knew you were hiding something"

So say it. Have the conversation. You’re having a child together, you should be able to have a conversation.

What is the outcome you want OP? The conversation you need to have will depend on the outcome that you want.

Whatever you do, don't put on weight fir him. A size 12 is healthy but a few more dress sizes up ...and it isn't. And once it's on it can be very tough to shift. Or even, to stop putting it on.

His exes were bigger and he still left them.

I mean at the end of the day if he wanted a bigger woman he would be with one.

How do you know about the videos? Can you confront him?

I tried approaching it lightly yesterday but he just laughed it off and avoided talking about it 🙃

But all I ever do is thinking about the fact I'm not the body type he enjoys looking at. It's a massive turn off when we are getting intimate too. I'm already self conscience and it just makes it worse.

Why are you ‘trying to approach it lightly’? Seriously? Do you not know how to have an adult conversation?