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I think i need to leave my partner

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AFB2022 · 15/04/2022 20:31

I need HELP!!! When i met my partner 5 years ago i felt like i'd finally met the one. He seemed different to all the other idiots i had been with/dating. He knew the right words to say to sweep me off my feet. But fast forward to now and i know i completelt rushed into everything with him. I moved in with him after 2 months and was pregnant after 5 months. I honestly thought i was happy and he would be a good dad but the cracks started to show as soon as my son was born. He never once got up in the night with him whilst on paternity or at the weekends knowing full well i'd not slept all night. Then and now he just comes home from work and sits on his phone, complains when i ask him to do something in the house. Complains about our sons behaviour and expects me to discipline while he does f#*k all except moan to me when he is also the parent. When our son is ill (which recently has been one thing after another) i'm the one who has to call in sick at work because he down right refuses. All he cares about is himself and his own needs, he is verbally/emotionally abusive to me. We hardly have sex because the thought of him kissing or touching me makes me feel physically ill. I've been going through a tough time these past few weeks health wise and he's shown no support. I'm currently signed off sick (full pay) but apparently i toss it off at home all day living the life of luxury. Yet i'm up in pain all night most nights, he still makes me get up with our son when he wakes and tells me to stop being lazy and pathetic. I look after our son during the week when not at nursery and at the weekends because he never helps me with him even though he's at home. He doesn't provide our son with clothes/shoes and i have to buy it all but i only work 2 days so i go without for myself. I pay to take my son on days out etc he's never once offered to pay for us. He earns a very good wage and has a good disposable income after all bills paid yet watches me struggle and complains when i say i have no money. Do you think this is reason enough to leave or am i being too sensitive and nit picky???

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Bananalanacake · 15/04/2022 20:34

You need to leave, can you go back to where you lived before

Mummylife2017 · 15/04/2022 20:36

I believe that if your relationship is exactly as you have described above and you are unhappy then you do need to leave.
Is talking to your husband an option?

Fireflygal · 15/04/2022 20:41

You were likely to have been lovebombed.

Leave as he doesn't seem like good partner material or even a good dad.

Do you have family for support?

DoubleYouOhEmAyEn · 15/04/2022 20:45

Oh dear, you're not the first and sadly nor the last to find yourself in this position. Its intoxicating at first but becomes corrosive and unsustainable. Cut your losses. Good luck. You deserve better than this man weighing you down.

AFB2022 · 15/04/2022 21:11

Thanks for the replies. I live close to my mum and dad but can't stay with my mum as no spare bedroom. My dad does have a spare room but not sure it would be an option. I just hate my life with him, i'm due surgery soon and have been in so much pain yet all he's bothered about is the fact we haven't had sex or i've not w@#£&d him off

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