My partner of 11 years has been suffering with depression for around a year now. Mostly work from what he would always tell me. He was pushing me away by sleeping on the sofa, not talking, always telling me it was work stress. On New years day he admitted he was having an emotional affair with someone from work and had kissed her the night before.
I was floored by this and wanted to work things out however he said he needed space and asked me to leave (we lived together but I had a rental house too so went there). He told me his anxiety was too high for him to see me. For the first few weeks we text with me always initiating contact and would sometimes talk on the phone. I met up with him on valentine's but he was like a cold stranger, couldn't look at me, couldn't discuss things. We did have sex though but it made him feel anxious too apparently. After that I left again and communication really became non existent to the point I begged him to let me know what was happening. He broke up with me over the phone.
I'm devastated. I love him completely and feel that he's going through a depressive episode rather than acting rationally. He was always the sweetest, kindest person I've known but became a stranger overnight after kissing the woman. He said he loved me but wasn't in love, I know sounds just like the script but also that he only liked the other woman. He's been on antidepressants for about a year and told me they make him feel numb to all emotions.
Is there any hope that he will come back once he's in a better place or am I being naive? I don't want to be the reason for any depression or anxiety he's causing but also after 11 years thought we would be together for life. Cheating upsets me so much obviously but I feel like he's in a very low place and any attention from someone new would have made him feel better about himself. I genuinely want him to be okay but I'm so upset and don't know whether to just try to move on. Since breaking up he hasn't text or communicated at all and neither have I but he has been posting a few pics of hobbies he's been doing at home on social media which means he's hopefully feeling alright.