I hated my sil and now she is dying

[Bjarnum]

She was a cow. She made countless spiteful digs at me - and my adopted kids. The crunch came when her DD got married and requested that non-blood relatives left the wedding before photos were taken. We went NC. Now her husband has died and she is in a hospice with some vile disease. When we were told we sent flowers and a card - silence. Despite my anger I would not wish this on anyone. I don't know why I am sharing this - I feel we reached out and can do no more.

Don't lose any sleep over her. She sounds awful

I think when people are dying, quite often they withdraw from others anyway. Even the ones they are close to. And from another perspective, when my dad was dying, his brother whom he had been estranged from for several years suddenly got in touch. We didn't respond as we thought he was being false and just contacting us for his own sake rather than for my dad.

This is going to sound harsh, but I've been in a similar position where someone who psychologically abused me was dying.

I basically shrugged and thought "fuck it, not my problem"

Because it wasn't. She will soon be dead and that chapter will be done. Move on, honestly. Death is inevitable 🤷🏻‍♀️