Is this normal after break up?

[Sleepydream]

Me & my partner have just split up. We lived together for nearly 3 years & loved each other a lot. The break up was due to circumstances rather than the relationship running its course or anyone doing anything wrong. I moved out 2 days ago but we have carried on messaging as normal. Saying I love you & how much we miss each other and then just general chat. Is this normal for a mutual break up? And how long does this normally carry on for? I’ve only ever split up with someone before when the relationship is over so either never kept in contact or very sporadic contact. I feel like because we still love each other we can’t cut the contact yet or change the contact to be less coupley. But I also know it’s not healthy to keep this up. I still feel like we are together but if I only moved out a couple of days ago is it normal to still be like this?

There is no normal. Perhaps you both need to maintain this connection whilst having some space. However, time is a great healer and eventually you will and should move on.

We both feel so sad & upset so yes I think we need this connection to get through it. But then it feels like we are still a couple & haven’t broken up & I am away for a couple of nights. I just can’t imagine him not being in my life or us sending messages like mates. It just doesn’t feel right.