How long did to wait after long term relationship?

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I've just come out of an 8 year relationship and I have a mad crush on someone new. My relationship ended because we ended up feeling more like roommates than romantic partners in the end and neither of us were happy with that. We weren't married and no kids. The split was 2 weeks ago.

There's someone I've known for a little bit that I've harboured a bit of a secret crush for a few months. So secret that nobody knows at all. He has also very recently become single after his marriage broke down, and the timing has lined up that we've just happened to become single at almost the very same time. In the interests of not drip feeding- he is filing for divorce and he does had a DC.

Now I think he likes me. But I'm cautious. I don't want to be somebody's rebound and how do I know that we're both ready to enter into something? How do you assert boundaries early on? Like I don't want a casual fwb situation but do I just say that? Is it too soon for me to get into something if his divorce isn't complete?

I honestly feel like the dating landscape has changed so much since I was last on it that I don't understand the rules anymore.

All advice welcome.

If he was married for a long time, OP, then be careful as he may just want to have some fun for a while.

I don't think there is any timeframe you must follow, just when it feels right for you, as you have interest in another man, that's a good sign you want to move forward.

Be careful though, even if you don't feel it, you are emotionally vulnerable and it only takes the wrong person to shatter any self confidence you've newly gained, remember to keep to your standards, definitely be upfront to what you're looking for, if this man has mutual interest, only go there if you're on the same page, last thing you need is to deal with rejection this soon.

There are no rules. Do what feels good for you, when it feels good for you, and say no to anything else.

You make your rules for you. You make the rules about how you want the people around you to behave, and you choose people who behave in that way, rather than trying to change those who don't. That's it, for boundaries.