10 years 2 kids and he leaves with no warning

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I have been with my partner 10 years we have a 4 and 3 year old, I thought everything was fine I mean I knew our relationship maybe wasn't the best I work full time he works 7 days and we have the kids a dog the house ...but he has just decided he is miserable and has been pretending not to be for months , he said he needs to be alone and focus on himself and his wellbeing as he feels low and needs to make himself a priority. I have tried talking saying we can work on things now I know but nothing is accepted. He ignores my texts and attempts to talk about what this all means and has gone to stay with a friend. I'm literally at a loss I am soo upset and drained I just.dont know what to do x

So sorry to hear what you are going through. I would text him to tell him all his clothes and belongings are packed and outside the door and you do not want him back. There is definitely someone else and why would you want him back if he can just up and go and leave his partner/wife of so many years and 2 young children. He is selfish beyond belief and why is he acting like he is the only one who has it hard, the early years are difficult but you do get through them but he will not as he is selfish. Get all the paperwork in order and talk to your family and friends and tell them what he has done and book a solicitor also. Time to move on as you cannot believe a word he is saying. Find your anger and put yourself and the little ones first. Can you get a family member or friend to stay with you for a few days now while you process it all. Please look after yourself.

I'm so sorry to hear this OP.

But I agree with the majority. He is following the script and there will be another woman.
And the fact its just out of the blue and he does not want to work on it with you just reinforces that somewhat.

Are you sure he has been working 7 days a week?
Regardless he is being incredibly selfish. You need to find some anger and tell him he sinply cannot decide to swan off and find himself when he has responsibilities as a father. So if he wants to stay at his friends house, fine, but he still has factor in his dc.

I'd contact a solicitor also as soon as you feel up to it. I would be very very surprised if there is not another woman involved.