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A happy thread!… little things DP does

33 replies

cranberryjuice3 · 13/04/2022 20:31

I thought a happy thread would be nice.

Yesterday my DP and I went to a pub to watch his favourite football team play. I came on unexpectedly and, without even batting an eyelid, he offered to run to the shop for me during the game to get tampons. He went off and came back with a bag of tampons, and a chocolate bar Flowers all during his football game and all with a smile on his face.

It made my day and I thought some of us could share some of the little things our DPs do or have done, just light hearted 😀

OP posts:
Brightrainbow · 13/04/2022 21:02

I suffer with eczema and he lets me rub the itchy bit on him as it helps
I just found out I hadn’t broken my knee-I have arthritis
He sat in a&e with me for 6 and a half hours,ran out to buy me a knee support and makes sure I have painkillers in my bag at all times
He’s bought me my fave chocolate in the form of an Easter egg,because as a child I never had an egg
He puts up with me watching endless murder programs and he’ll get up early on his day off,just to give me a lift to work so I don’t have to walk and if he can,he’ll pick me up as well

I moan about him but he’s a good egg

WingBingo · 13/04/2022 21:09

DH runs me a bath we he notices I am stressed.

I get a good hour lolling in the tub. With 2 young DC this is a much needed hour to myself.

totallyoutnumbered · 13/04/2022 22:11

DP is just a poppet. My EXH made me feel like a second class
Citizen and this is the polar opposite. He speaks all the love languages so well. Brings me a cup of tea with a kiss, helps my kids with their homework and spends time getting to know them and earn their trust. He's kind to everyone and most importantly amazing with his own Mum. He makes me feel like his priority all of the time which took some getting used to. He's also incredibly funny and a tiger in bed. I've finally got my happy ending

OrlandointheWilderness · 13/04/2022 22:18

He unfailingly brings me tea in the morning. He defrosts my car in the mornings. He makes sure there are things I like at his house and he pays attention to my day and how I am. He likes to fall asleep with my head on his chest and his arm around me and he is unfailingly kind and decent.

RonWeasleysBackfiringWand · 13/04/2022 22:24

When I’m in the bath he graciously accepts me yelling out requests for songs/coffee/incense sticks to be lit/chocolate buttons/towel to be warmed when I’ve forgotten/posh conditioner to be brought to me etc.

Cakeandcoffee93 · 13/04/2022 22:28

Yay a positive thread! How lovely to read Smile this is one of the things I love about him, the things he remembers I need when I’m so busy seeing to the house or dd. The cups of tea I didn’t ask for but needed when I’m stressed. He’s never refused me a hug- he always lets me hug him. My ex wasn’t affectionate at all but with my bf now I feel content. It’s nice to be spoilt

speakball · 14/04/2022 08:33

I really appreciate how grown up he is, we can discuss problems and he's never remotely nasty or petty, he's just an adult and I don't think he will ever know how much I appreciate his maturity.

CoffeeBeansGalore · 14/04/2022 08:43

I've recently had health problems with severely impaired mobility.
He's lifted me to my feet when I couldn't get up.
He makes me my favourite dinners.
He takes me out, lifting me in & out the car, so I don't go stir crazy staying in the house.
I get brought coffee in bed every morning.
And he still tells me I'm gorgeous, even when I don't feel attractive because my body isn't working properly.
Been married over 30 years. I think I picked the right one!

WildFlowerBees · 14/04/2022 08:51

Like pp dh is an adult and isn't petty, he is the most genuine and nicest person I've bet met, no idea how I bagged him!

When my mum died dh was without a doubt the person who kept me going he's calm and kind never telling me to be a certain way just allowed me to grieve without expectation, he doesn't just listen he hears what's being said. He's also very funny and we laugh daily a lot I love his dry humour and quick wit.

I feel really lucky to have the kind of relationship I have with dh when there's so many who have shitty partners.

WildFlowerBees · 14/04/2022 08:51

Ever met not bet 🙄

LittleRedChevette · 14/04/2022 08:53

My fairly new DP bring me coffee in the morning whenever we stay, always compliments me, cooks for me, gives me random little gifts and has a whole list of things/suggestions for us to do together in the near and not so near future.

There’s a bank holiday coming up and he’s asked if I’ll be child-free and able to be whisked away.

In years and years he is honestly the kindest, most considerate man I’ve had the good fortune to meet.

Mummysgonetobed · 14/04/2022 08:57

I’m with a new DP after separating from my STBEXH last year. New DP is a whirlwind of caring, not big things but little acts let me know he loves me (he’s not one for big declarations or grand gestures), but running me a bath with candles and bubbles, ringing me to remind me about some speed cameras on my way home, messages just with “xx” on. Small things but such a polar opposite to my ex and it makes me feel all warm inside.

doya · 14/04/2022 08:57

He rang the doctors because I hadn’t left enough time to set up my (his step) DD’s NHS app to get her covid certificate for holiday. They printed out her record and signed it and I just had to pick it up. I’m horribly unorganised and he always figures out how to fix it.

ginslinger · 14/04/2022 09:02

Every weekday morning for 32 years he has brought me tea in bed.
He is my greatest champion

dgirluk · 14/04/2022 09:03

I had a tummy bug the other weekend and went to bed feeling awful. He came up every hour to check on me, then built me a nest of towels around the toilet in case I needed to kneel there to be sick (cold tile floor). I know that's a bit grim but it was so sweet!

Karatema · 14/04/2022 09:08

My husband came out of quarantine yesterday (negative test) so he went and bought me chocolate (several types) because he ate my last lot! He also makes me coffee in the morning Smile

Seasidesunday · 14/04/2022 09:09

Rubs my back daily refills my hot water bottle and never complains about looking after me even when I’m in lots of pain and being grumpy

justgivein · 14/04/2022 09:14

Strokes the inside of my hand when we're chilling in the evening.

Veryverysadandold · 14/04/2022 09:50

My fave is when he comes to my house and does the recycling without being asked just cos I hate it. He also changes the beds and makes great packed lunches when we go away. Sometimes I think he's the last good man left on earth.

ThisIsntDanicaBritannica · 14/04/2022 11:34

Did every night feed with dd. Always makes me a nice coffee in the machine as soon as I get up. Cooks my dinner whenever he sees I’m tired. Insisted I took regular naps when dd was little.
He’s crap at diy though so I do it instead - turns out I have quite a knack, for which he is really grateful and tells anyone who will listen about his wife’s diy achievements!

Keladrythesaviour · 14/04/2022 11:50

He brings me a cup of tea on the mornings he's WFH. He never complains about me loafing around in bed (I have ME) and he unfailingly tells me I'm beautiful even when I definitely don't look it.

totallyoutnumbered · 14/04/2022 12:03

@dgirluk

I had a tummy bug the other weekend and went to bed feeling awful. He came up every hour to check on me, then built me a nest of towels around the toilet in case I needed to kneel there to be sick (cold tile floor). I know that's a bit grim but it was so sweet!
I love this ❤️
Madickenxx · 14/04/2022 12:04

The biggest thing is remind me of things. Brain fog is setting in for me and I keep forgetting things like appointments, keys and phone. He remembers everything even if it's an appointment for my DC. He also sorts the bins, keeps my car filled with petrol and brings me coffee in bed at the weekend. He gives me hugs whenever I want them and calms me down when I have my mini meltdowns. He is also great at communicating and we can talk through concerns / issues without turning it into an argument.

I do nice things for him as well - we are a good team and have each other's backs. A world apart from my abusive ex-H who would go out of his way to hurt me and the kids to make him feel better about himself. Leaving was the best thing I ever did!

EarthSight · 14/04/2022 12:08

@totallyoutnumbered

DP is just a poppet. My EXH made me feel like a second class Citizen and this is the polar opposite. He speaks all the love languages so well. Brings me a cup of tea with a kiss, helps my kids with their homework and spends time getting to know them and earn their trust. He's kind to everyone and most importantly amazing with his own Mum. He makes me feel like his priority all of the time which took some getting used to. He's also incredibly funny and a tiger in bed. I've finally got my happy ending
@totallyyoutnumbered In more ways that one it seems!
isitbedyet · 14/04/2022 12:12

@cranberryjuice3

I thought a happy thread would be nice.

Yesterday my DP and I went to a pub to watch his favourite football team play. I came on unexpectedly and, without even batting an eyelid, he offered to run to the shop for me during the game to get tampons. He went off and came back with a bag of tampons, and a chocolate bar Flowers all during his football game and all with a smile on his face.

It made my day and I thought some of us could share some of the little things our DPs do or have done, just light hearted 😀

What a legend ❤️