My ex dp and I were together for a year and a half but the relationship was very intense. We moved in together during the lockdown and I found out I was pregnant unplanned at this point my loving and caring man and all the promises he’d made for our future turned vile and unkind and ran a mile before coming back late into my pregnancy and telling me how much of a mistake he’s made. I found out a few months ago through social media that he’d had a fiancée the entire time and basically lived a double life. I was understandably devastated whilst trying to look after a newborn and contacted the other woman who knew nothing about me either. I found out today they’d got married a few weeks ago as I was suspicious about his sudden lack of contact with our daughter.
I am not sure if it’s shock or if I was trauma bonded to him but I feel like he’s gotten away with so much hurt towards me and our child. We slept together at Christmas as I didn’t know he was engaged and I was doing my best to try and forgive him for the sake of our child. I saw him only two weeks before his wedding and he tried holding my hand which I told him was absolutely unacceptable.
I don’t want him back in any way, shape or form and I would never have been in a relationship knowing his secrets. But how can I ever get over this betrayal? He has caused me so much trauma I think I’m in survival mode. He has yet to tell his family or friends that he has fathered a child and is playing the golden boy.