Breakup + poor mental health

[Thatsthatthen87]

Name changed, not that it matters.

I've just broken up with my boyfriend of 4yrs. Not living together and no kids, thankfully. To an extent, I feel relieved because there are things I can do now that I couldn't before and I don't feel he was the same person as when we got together.

But my mental health is already questionable and I'm scared I'm gonna be crushed by missing the person I spend most of my free time with. Going from talking every single day to never seems so overwhelming. As it stands I'm just crying nonstop but trying to see the positives and I'm worried I'll start struggling badly.

I'm so sorry OP, it must be so hard right now and feel awful. Breakups are hard and even if they are for the right reasons (you say you're relieved), that doesn't mean they can't be sad, upsetting, terrible and miserable. Let yourself feel the emotions at the moment, it's all still so fresh and raw. In time, start planning what you want to do with your time, how you want to spend it. Remember it's normal to miss someone even if they weren't right for you.

Sorry, I meant to add - keep checking in on your MH: are there people who can support you? If not, reach out to your local mental health team/GP and get some professional support, even short term

I'm in the same boat as you right now. I see this was a couple of weeks ago for you... how do you feel now? I'm only a couple of days in and I feel so hurt and upset and just like you, I can't stop crying

In exactly the same boat right now. I was dumped by my fiancee, she has done this before a couple of years ago and it totally destroyed me. We got back together 10 months later, that was 2 years ago and she's just done exactly the same. I'm afraid of going back to feeling as bad as I did last time.