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Over bearing mother

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marvmaise · 13/04/2022 11:31

So long story but my mother and father are binge drinkers I was taken away from them when I was younger due to alcohol and emotional abuse neglect ect. Im on talk terms with my mother and father, they have been good grandparents to my ds. My sister and brother have both cut contact with my mother due to their own reasons. But my mum over the last few months has become obsessive with getting in touch. Every month I've had to clear out my voicemail box because she rings up to 5 or 6 times a day and leave voicemails if I don't answer, she texts on every social platform possible multiple times and calls me on there, if I don't reply my dad will start texting me to answer her, and ask me why I haven't replied. Sometimes I'm just busy with my baby and everyday life, but she wants me to text all day, answering every question about me my son, my sister her kids, my brother. I just don't have time I want to tell her it's getting too much but if I don't reply she starts texting me saying she's ill or been to the hospital for something and my dad will do the same. Yet when she goes off on her binge drinks I don't hear from her for up to a week and then the moment she texts to say she's back if i don't text back it starts again. I don't even wanna go on my phone anymore. Anyone got any advice sorrt it's so long

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Tinwhistler · 13/04/2022 12:06

Well I think I know why your siblings cut contact with her. I'd be inclined to do the same. Before she has a chance to mess with your kid too.

Alternatively, send one message 'the texting and calling 6 times a day is too much and quite frankly, mental. Dial it back or be aware that I will only be responding when it suits me in future'.

And follow through.
Set boundaries for yourself. Not others. If you don't want to respond, don't.

If the get abusive or continue to make things difficult, cut contact completely.

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