Am I unreasonable to not always want to talk about the kids?

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Me and my boyfriend have a 1 year old baby. He works away and has done since I met him. He usually works 2/3 weeks then comes home and spends time with us. I work full time and basically do everything. Lately things haven’t been great between us, we’ve been busy, haven’t made the time for each other to chat. We may text here and there but I’m really feeling the distance. He’s been quite snappy with me and I feel things are very weird.

I told him how I felt, he FaceTimes our son so we might get a chat in here and there but it’s nothing concrete. Obviously he wants to know about our baby, but I’ve gotten to the point where I just think, this is boring. I understand he doesn’t get to spend the time I do with our baby and it must be hard. But we have literally sat in silence unless it’s about our son. We were so good and now it’s just boring. I want to talk about adult things, I want our own time to have phone calls. I told him this and he called me selfish and I sound like a bad mum because I said it’s boring to talk about our son all the time

Well, I can see it from both sides.
you are with him all the time so want to talk about anything else, but he must miss him terribly.

Can you do both, chat about the kids and the adults day

But we have literally sat in silence unless it’s about our son

What did you used to talk about before you had your son? How long have you been together?

Are you able to send him little snippets of video of your ds doing things on regular intervals ? Would that help him feel more connected / like he is missing less ?

Aside from that, it is exhausting having a baby on top of working FT and doing all the daily grind of all the cooking, shopping, laundry, cleaning, etc as well. We all feel torn at that stage, with not enough time to do anything and being stretched in all directions. Doing it all on your own for days on end must be hard.
I think you both need to acknowledge that, and also to acknowledge it must be hard working away so much.

You say "we were so good". As EvenMoreFuriousVexation asks, what did you talk about before you became parents? Can you both watch a film / TV show / sporting event at the same time and chat about it as you watch ?
Or can you plan some time away together...spend time looking for where you'd like to go?
Do you have a shared interest....something you used to do together ?