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Dating 2, which one to choose

28 replies

Newpjamas · 12/04/2022 20:10

New to online dating
Me up with 2 guys,
Guy 1- not my usual type quite overweight but wants sane things in life marriage kids etc..
Guy2- hot, funny, laid back with marriage & kids but makes me feel good
Who to choose…

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Cupcake00 · 12/04/2022 20:14

How many dates have you been on with each? Do you have to decide yet?

Yousexybugger · 12/04/2022 20:18

Have at least a second or third date with both.

How old are you? For me that could be the decider if both go well.

If you're 25 give it a go with #2 if you have more fun and see where it leads.

37 and wanting kids, your time might be better spent pursuing things with someone like #1 (since he wants those things too) as long as there's some romantic potential there.

CrowAndArrow · 12/04/2022 20:40

If you can't pick... then it's neither.

KhansMambo · 12/04/2022 20:44

Why do you feel you need to ‘choose’? How many dates have you been on with these people? Do you actually like either of them?

Also, you are aware that other men continue to exist, right?

seensome · 12/04/2022 21:25

Probably neither, don't settle for guy 1 just because he wants the same as you, you'll end up resenting it.

Guy 2 proceed with caution, doesn't sound like marriage and kids will happen soon, have you got time to wait long?

Date them both a bit longer, you'll probably find that at least one of them fizzles out anyway.

DatingAWidower22 · 12/04/2022 21:44

Neither! Keep dating until someone takes your breath away

Original poster
Newpjamas · 13/04/2022 07:36

Yes I really like both

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candles1298 · 13/04/2022 07:47

@CrowAndArrow

If you can't pick... then it's neither.
Exactly this......
candles1298 · 13/04/2022 07:50

Reading between the lines of his you've worded your post.....

  1. either guy 1 isn't funny and doesn't make you feel good; OR
  2. you already have a preference for guy 2 (as what you've written isn't balanced), but you're considering guy 1 only cos he wants kids.

Poor guy 1

Sudokooo · 13/04/2022 08:10

Which one do you have the most laughs with and chemistry with?

Thesefeetaremadeforwalking · 13/04/2022 08:28

I agree with PPs.

If you can't choose then you probably don't want either of them Hmm

Original poster
Newpjamas · 13/04/2022 08:33

Thats not true @Thesefeetaremadeforwalking

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Lady0racle · 13/04/2022 08:37

How many dates have you been on? Multi dating is generally assumed with OLD so I don’t think there’s any urgency to decide immediately. I’d assume both of them are still swiping/meeting other women too. One of them may well ‘choose’ someone else before you!

Raindrops2015 · 13/04/2022 08:38

Date other guys. The fact you mentioned guy one is overweight suggests that's a problem for you. If you want kids and marriage guy 2 is a risk cos he's already been there and might not want to do it again. Plenty of others out there.

Mummybear888 · 13/04/2022 08:41

Don't settle for either.

Wait for someone to come along that wants the same things as you and that you really connect with and that makes you laugh. Sharing the same sense of humour is also important I feel.

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Newpjamas · 13/04/2022 08:44

Thanks @Lady0racle @Raindrops2015
Yes your right they probably are still chatting to others - im new to dating and it didn’t feel right speakin to both at same time but I suppose it is.
Non have been married/ have kids
been on 4 dates with g1 and two dates with g2

The weight thing was he was slim in the pics so i was unaware he had gained a fair bit and ive not been with someone his size before its all so different i dont mean to sound harsh i feel really bad for thinking it

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Watchkeys · 13/04/2022 08:48

The right person for you will stand out by a mile. If these two are on equal footing, they're not him. The right person won't have a 'He's got good points but'. He'll blow your socks off. You don't have to pick either of these two.

Original poster
Newpjamas · 13/04/2022 08:49

Ok thanks @Watchkeys

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Raindrops2015 · 13/04/2022 09:47

Don't feel guilty to go out with someone you're not attracted to. The harsh truth for me is I can't cope with beards, man buns and skinny jeans so I'm just not going to go there! I don't care how superficial that sounds. I'm not comdemning myself to a life of ick.

Original poster
Newpjamas · 13/04/2022 10:40

Thanks @Raindrops2015

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OldEvilOwl · 13/04/2022 15:36

Toss a coin. If your disappointed with the result that's your answer

AbiSarcasmLoading · 13/04/2022 15:59

Never decide using logic - always go for chemistry and feeling, as long as you can differentiate between chemistry and adrenaline...

Mind you, look at the state of me :)

FlissyPaps · 14/04/2022 02:08

Who did you meet second?

Because if your were set on the first guy, the second guy wouldn’t have turned your head.

Monty27 · 14/04/2022 04:31

Chemistry all the way.
However they're not the only two choices in the world of dating surely.
Broaden your horizons.
And FFS don't get hurt.

Original poster
Newpjamas · 14/04/2022 09:18

Thanks everyone
Taking it all on board
Guy 2 i met second

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