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Something always 'wrong' with partner

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honorary · 12/04/2022 17:42

And it's wearing thin...
I don't feed much into his health complaints or niggles as they don't impinge on his life too much ie he goes to work and works hard, he can function when feeling poorly but there's always a complaint... tired, headache, cold etc.
The latest thing is possibly genuine in that he has an old back and shoulder injury from sport and a precious car crash.
He was involved in a tip a few weeks ago and the Dr has told him that he has whiplash. So again lots of medication, time off work and a huge pity party.
I do feel for him to a point but he doesn't do himself any favours.
We have a big family event at the weekend that involves travel, all day celebration and a night away.
I've told him that if he needs to opt out, that's fine by me but he is retiscent and says he can go and he will be ok( my family event).
I have a fear of him going and complaining and needing time out and generally engaging in a pity party for the day and now I'm
Dreading it as it is a big family reunion of sorts .
It sounds selfish on my part but I just don't want to have to go and feel that I have to mind him and keep checking on him.
I just wish he'd bloody stay at home and do what Dr asked him eg rest/ swim/ walk and medicate .

OP posts:
NotTheOW · 12/04/2022 17:45

How does he feels being ill all the time? Had he considered counselling? It can be relentless sometimes. Maybe suggest kindly that he does what the Dr asks of him if he wants to improve the situation.

EarthSight · 12/04/2022 18:13

Is he anxious, stressed or depressed? This can affect the immune system and perception of pain.

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