My partner and I split recently (I walked away after weeks of him treating me badly). He came under a huge amount of stress but instead of talking to me, he shut me out, admittedly tried to push me away and used the majority of his free time with his friends drinking and being verbally abusive towards me. Prior to this rocky patch, he was all into me, I felt like a priority and never once questioned his interest.
Fast forward to today, we're back together giving it a second chance (but the last chance) as the time apart was very much needed to make us BOTH realise how badly things were getting. He chased me and pleaded with me to give him another chance. He sent loving messages pouring his heart out and apologising (he's never done this before so it felt genuine. He told me he knew what had to change and I agreed to try again.
But since then, and it's only been a week, I still feel no better. I just feel like the spark has gone for him and despite the issues being from his end, I am the one making more of the effort. His texts aren't flirty, or exciting like they used to be, he doesn't appear excited to see me anymore and was always the one initiating the plans. Now it's me. He never asks me anything about me or my day other than the standard 'how's work'? I feel lonely and that he's just very disinterested. He doesn't often talk about his feelings but I expected a bit more considering he knew this was the last chance. Maybe I'm asking for too much and expecting things to go back to how they were before our rocky patch I don't know. But it's hard when you have something so good to compare it to and it's just not competing.
I've asked him if things are ok as he seems distant and different (he does have a tendency to give his all to the newest thing in his life - and he's just started a new job and he is consumed with it as well as a new football team he's joined). We both have our own hobbies and it's nice, but he never asks about mine he just constantly goes on about how great his teammates are and how brilliant everything is from his side. After asking him if things are ok he says everything is fine, he is just being himself and thought things were going well? So now I feel like I have overreacted and just expecting things too soon. My head is all over the place with things. If things are ok I shouldn't feel like this?