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Domestic abuse lies

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monster101 · 12/04/2022 08:01

My brother was in an abusive marriage for years. His wife would hit him, accuse him of affairs, even storming into his work and accusing his supervisor of having an affair with him. He had to leave his job due to embarrassment. Even myself and my family were at the tail end of her abuse and would receive phone calls and messages in the middle of the night if my brother was out with friends or she was suspecting him of something. If we didn't agree with her, we would be met with ridiculous messages. She took control of everything in their marriage and he seemed to bend over backwards to please her.

It all then calmed down and they had children, but since the second child was born, she seemed to begin the behaviour again. Eventually, he moved out as he couldn't take anymore of it.
It has been awful since. She has kept the children away from him and is now accusing him of domestic violence which he assures me is not true. She has also made up lies about my parents behaviour towards her which is complete lies. My parents don't even live near us and stay out of our business as much as possible. It appears that she will literally go to any lengths.

They soon go to court about their childcare split and conditions of divorce and I'm really concerned for my brother. She is totally unhinged and will go to any lengths. I am really worried that the court will be taken in by her lies and he has no evidence of the physical abuse towards him. She also has no evidence of physical abuse but is accusing him of other forms of abuse. He has a solicitor who seems pretty good, but surely the courts are more likely to believe a woman over a man?

OP posts:
Fedupsotired · 12/04/2022 08:22

Sorry OP I've no helpful advice but am reporting this so it can be moved to a more suitable topic area

2boysDad · 12/04/2022 09:36

Suggest he calls the Mankind Initiative, they have a helpline that he can use for support and advice.

www.mankind.org.uk/
01823 334244

They're specialists in this area and should be able to provide some help (although not free lawyers as they don't get any taxpayer funding).

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