I am 2 days into a really traumatic, completely unexpected break-up of a year long relationship that was the happiest I’ve ever been. He is determined we’re done and must be absolutely NC. Ironically, he did something shocking and hurtful (not illegal or violent or anything), but I’m the one looking for reconciliation.
It makes absolutely no sense because no way would I tell a friend of mine to stay with a man who acted like he did. Yet here I am, wishing I could have him back while he’s refusing and saying it’s definitely over.
Prior to the day it all happened, it was the best best relationship.
I’ve previously been divorced after a decade long marriage and that ended under shocking circumstances, so I know these things can be weathered. Really, this should be easy in comparison but right now it feels absolutely impossible to get through.
I start a new job in 4 weeks. It’s a life-changing, career-defining role and I cannot mess it up.
I know there are no short-cuts when it comes to grief but I need to channel all my energy into recovering and being ready for than role.
Please send me all your advice. The more time I spend reading good advice on MN, the less I spend thinking about it all.