can't believe BILs cheek

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im sure that BIL thinks DH has an endless supply of ready money.

he phoned up the other day and asked dh if he could borrow £650 to use as spending money when he goes on holiday

now, i am 36 weeks pregnant and we still have loads to spend on baby stuff we have ordered, we need a new fridge and we have just sent off a huge cheque for the sofa payment. DH told BIL we couldnt do it (i wouldnt allow it even if we didn't have large outgoings) explaining about the expenditure we have at the mo.

anyway yesterday he phones again asking if we have thought about lending him the money, dh said no again and bil proceeded to try and guilt him by saying he would have to cancel the whole holiday and he wouldn't be able to see his son(who he abandoned in the U.S and doesn't send any money) and would lose the money he spent on flights, he has left DH feeling really guilty, not me though, he booked those flight months ago and has had plenty of time to save spending money.

FGS, does he really think we can just pull £650 from our arses just like that, i really hate BIL, he's such a manipulating bully

Has your husband been financing her brother for a while?

He must have been, otherwise why would bil suddenly expect a handout?

he is a 33yr old loser who abandons his children, runs from anything if it gets difficult and expects other people to bail him out.

Dh lent him money once and never saw a penny of it again.

We need a support group for BIL's from hell.

We can call it BILFH.

He sounds foul!!

Congratulations

foul is not the word, do you know what he did when his baby was distressed in the womb and his wife was rushed for an emergency caesarian?

he fucked off home, had a spliff and got drunk.

i have to post and run, DH will be home in a mo and reads what im writing over my shoulder

Bloody hell - scrap foul. He's a complete wanker!!!

What on earth has your DH got to feel "guilty" about ? This is especially true if he STILL owes you money from before. Arrogant git.

If he really can't go away then this might teach him a valuable lesson about taking responsibility for yourself.

Well said catsmother!

tell him to stick it on his overdraft like the rest of us.

surely he has known for a while that he was going away? could have saved.

Well he sounds like a real treasure. Does he work? Tell him to get a loan and to stand on his own two feet for once. Does he not care you have a baby due in 4 weeks? Under no circumstances lend him the money - you will not see it again and BIL will see you as a route to easy free money.

For some reason this post has made me really angry - can't beleive the cheek of some people

Well presumably if he didn't care when his own wife was in labour and difficulties he is unlikely to care that his SIL is due in 4 weeks....

tell him to fuck off home, have a spliff and get drunk

the moon and the sun revolve around BIL, in his head anyway.

he has had plenty of time to save, he works as a self employed builder and i don't think he gets much work. well boo hoo for him, get a regular job BIL and stop scrounging from your family.

He has asked us several times before to lend him money and i always say no, its usually £100 or so he wants to borrow but asking for that much money just for him to fritter away on a holiday(i doubt he'll spend much on his son) the cheek of it left me very nearly speechless, but i recovered in time to have a good rant about BIL to DH.

it doesnt matter how guilty DH feels, BIL has to bash his way through my heart of stone before he gets any money off us.

Good for you ..... I had a nasty feeling you were going to come back and say your DH had gone ahead and given lent it to him.