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What should I do for the best

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Cheekychickadee · 11/04/2022 02:04

Me and my partner have been together for 6 months , but have been in each others lives as friends for 10 plus years, for the most part we get along quite well and rarely argue when we do it’s quite quickly resolved even if it does get heated , for about 4 months we have always been together , stayed together and done everything together including our children , the past month we have been at his appartment none stop instead of my home , if he goes to work I wait in for him , if I go to work I come home to him , the past week he has been quite withdrawn and constantly on his phone , I realised he had been adding a couple of random girls on social media outlets when I confronted him he said it was just social media nothing meant by it he hadn’t spoken to these girls ect when I said I was leaving and I didn’t need this relationship , he pleaded he loved me and deleted the apps , we have a holiday booked together and a couple other things including the kids planned so I decided to stay with him because it seemed the easier option .. the rest of the week his behaviour was very up and down one minute love yous and forehead kisses the next you need to go home because I need space and we are constantly together I need a break .. I have now come home but now stuck in my thoughts I don’t know whether to break things off and cut losses with everything or to just give him the space and see if our relationship benefits from it .. I guess I am also unsure if it is just space he wants to have some him time because I have been taking over his home or if it’s the start of him breaking up with me , anyone experienced anything similar and can best advise

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IamTheEvilPea · 11/04/2022 02:09

This sounds very childish and he doesn't sound like anything close to relationship material.

I'm not sure I've understood your post properly: you have children and they are involved in seeing him even though you've only been together a few months? I hope I've misunderstood that part as that would be crazy.

I would advise to walk away from this. These early stages should be fun and very straightforward! If it's like this already there is something very wrong.

Aquamarine1029 · 11/04/2022 02:22

You know you need to end this. Six months in he is a boyfriend, not a partner, and the red flags are already waving. Do what's best for your children and end this. It was far too much, far too soon.

Hiddenvoice · 11/04/2022 06:59

I get that you have known each other for a long time but I think it’s moved really quickly and you both need a bit of your own space.
I know many couples who have moved in within 6 months but it can become a little overwhelming.
Personally I’d give each other space for a few days and think about what you want from this relationship. Give him a bit of time to miss you. Nothing wrong with texting/phoning each other but just make plans to see him at the end of the week etc

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