Insecure about weight gain and changing body

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I'm in a relationship where we live apart. We're late forties and are very happy together. Two years together but see one another every second weekend, a night/ day or two during other week and holidays and family events are celebrated as a couple.

I have had rapid weight gain on hrt over the last year. My doses have been regularly tweaked but I'm still
Carrying excess of a stone and I'm
Utterly consumed by it . My body confidence has crashed which never bothered me and was accepting of
My size 14 wobbly body.
I feel desired by my partner and we've had the conversation where I've told him
How I'm struggling so much with self image and body xonfidence and asked him
Straight out of my
Changing body affected his attraction towards me. He said absolutely not a number of times and came over to kiss me.
He is not a man of many words but I just feel
So awful and wonder how it can't affect him.

Because not everyone finds beauty in the same things? Just because you hate the way your body looks (and I'm not minimising your feelings) doesn't mean he does too. And he clearly doesn't.

Aw you are been far too hard on yourself and need to build up your self confidence and belief in yourself. Try to take some walks as this will help you to feel better about yourself. I have lost weight now in peri menopause but still have wobbly tummy but am single so easier as no one else to worry about. Stop worrying about how your partner feels and try to do more things you enjoy for yourself and to feel strong in yourself. Have no real advice but going through meno no fun at all and hopefully we all come out of it without going mad as feels like that at times. You are too hard on yourself, is he an oil painting himself. Bet you are lovely and look lovely and just need to keep telling yourself that he is lucky to have you.

Thanks. I just feel horribly bloated and have this balloon belly that appeared out of nowhere .
In bed my confidence has completely
Plummeted.
He is no oil painting but to me he is beautiful inside and out .. also with a big belly !