Am I over-reacting

[Tarah123x]

I feel so annoyed today as I feel like husbands going out every weekend has turned into a huge habit . Have moved to a new area and he works 6 days sometimes 7, every Saturday after work he is coming home near to 2am telling me he’s meeting up with old friends.

I told him I’m fine with him seeing them as long as it’s not every weekends as I have no leasuire time for self on my own. Never plans date nights etc and when I do I don’t get much of a ‘yes’ haven’t been on one maybe over 5 months

What would you do he feels like I’m making a fuss and being controlling

If I am I would like advice because that’s not my intentions I don’t mind him having a social life but I don’t see a good balance. During week is home after work we have dinner etc but Saturdays are becoming slightly annoying

I tried talking to him but when I do he just shuts off and tells me not yet. I’m very moody

I can’t even think what to do because I don’t think this conversation is going to take place of how we can fix it etc or how he needs to understand I need me time aswell.

all I been hearing is how few hours every week is nothing to argue over . It’s not like he’s partying rather is just having few hours of all boys gathering together

But the point is, he doesn’t allow you the same luxury.

Go back to work OP.
He doesn't respect you. He thinks you're the default parent because he works.

Stop 'asking' and start telling.

Next week. Make sure you have a 'meet up with friends' arranged on Saturday night. Tell him today. 'I'm out this Saturday. You are looking after the kids.. and do it .

So basically he is saying he wants to spend every weekend out with the boys?
And if you don't like it you are being controlling, moody and jealous.

So totally your fault OP.

He doesn't know how to fix it, ey? His answer to you is get a babysitter?
Every weekend? Hes going to cough up for that is he?

How about you suggest he fix it by not going out every bloody weekend? And when you do get a babysitter it will be for the 2 of you to go on a date night!

There, problem solved for him. Although something tells me he'll come up with something else to call you as he basically wants his time out every weekend with the boys and to hell with you.

I think I'd be taking him up on his solution of leaving. He'll have the dc every other weekend then.
And no housekeeper.

Hes being a selfish prick. If I was with someone who literally didn't want to spend any time with me, or go out places with me and wanted to spend it all with his mates I'd be dropping him like a hot coal. DC or not.

Your DH is being completely unreasonable. Why does organising childcare fall to you?

Problem is he isn't prioritising his relationship with you. He's choosing his friends. How about suggesting a date night every other weekend and the same for friends?

You could also go out too? Or get the girls around ? Can you get babysitters? Have you any support from anyone?

Him suggesting ending everything if he can't have his own way is an issue though. Does he offer make threats to get what he wants?

Feel for you OP

He's making threats of splitting because he wants it all his own way? Fine. Tell him you have the solution. You are getting a full time job & moving out. Once you have sorted somewhere to live, you will have the children every other weekend.
He can then see his mates for his down time & so can you.
Fairs fair.