Advice needed on children's dad and contact

[Justmeand3]

Ive posted this elsewhere but that seems a quiet thread so I'm hoping it is ok

My ex hasent seen our daughter for 6 weeks, it use to be EOW however he told me that he had to work away.....and that was the last time we saw him. However he isn't working away, he's still been doing the same things he does, going to work, playing football with the team he captains locally and playing his Xbox all day when not in work ( I only know this cause a mutual friend is 'online' friends with him and he sees when he appears online) and I know that it's him and not anyone else using his Xbox. My little girl asks about when is she going to see daddy again and I just say he is busy working...

I don't know what else to say ...I don't want to contact him really and ask what he's up to because I don't want to force it....he should want to see his daughter. He is a compulsive liar, one of the main reasons we separated a couple years ago....and I don't want my daughter to be in that situation but at the same time she needs a dad in her life. I've noticed recently she is becoming attached to my friends male partners and I'm wondering if she's craving that male figure in her life cause I don't have a partner and don't particularly want one anytime soon.

I'm going to contact families need father's this week but wanted to see if anyone here could help?? Thank you for reading.

I know my view will be unpopular but if a father cannot be a consistent presence in a child’s life he’s better off out of it permanently.
I think it does a child far more damage to be waiting and wondering on when they will next be granted an audience.
Out of sight, out of mind, eventually.

I think the same as you if I'm honest, I just want to do right by my daughter though.

I have a feeling he will want to see her over Easter weekend.....but he wouldn't have seen her for 7 weeks with no other contact...so do I let him or not? Just seems unfair that he can just turn up on special occasions and expect to have that time with her.

I have to deal with the sickness, tantrums and everything else and he has the nice moments. I know that sounds selfish but it's true!

If he asks to see her, tell him to apply for a court order.

Il have to look into that @FelicityPike I'm not too sure what that involves. I wouldn't want to have to put my daughter through something like that if she would need to be there....she is 4. It would be better to have something more formal in place though.

Only thing with that is though, even with the contact order, he can’t be made to have his daughter if he chooses to let her down.

Yeah, it seems pretty pointless then I guess to go through all that. He will let her down, it was always last minute too .....alot of the time it was to prevent me from going out and having my own life as he knew I only go out when she is at his...