WtFlyingF is wrong with my mother?

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It's driving me mad. She's driving me mad. I can't put my finger on it but oh my dear god it's pushing all the fecking buttons for WW3.

I ask her not to do something, but she does it.
She makes a point of saying she was grammar schooled yet can't pronounce basic words properly or refuses to e.g. Whaaa rather than what, meeeegrain rather than migraine etc.
She can't close any door not even a cupboard door without slamming it but says she's not slamming them. Slams the toaster levers down, when asked not and shown all is needed is a gentle push, still slams them down.
Doles out criticism but can't take any.
Is an absolute vicious bitch but can take the same medicine....
Pushes every single damn button I have ...
Is wonderful with DC but an absolute mega bitch with me...what's this all about?!

@RantyAunty

Maybe she has a lot of pent up anger and resentment.

I thought this too. If the op is as aggressive to her mother as she is in her posting, I'm not surprised the woman is fighting back. The op says that her mother is wonderful with the children though, yet she wants to deprive her children of a relationship with their loving grandmother because she doesn't like the way she uses a toaster and pronounces some of her words. There's only one bitch here and it doesn't sound like the grandmother

Oh it's definitely the grandmother 😂😂😂

@silentpool

I have gone low contact with my mother as it is such a profoundly negative relationship. I was sick of the snide comments, the guilt tripping and bitching about me behind my back - all while professing to want the "ideal" mother daughter relationship.

I get it OP - take a step back, it's completely worth it.

The only things the OP has highlighted that her mother does that are beyond the pale are pronouncing words 'incorrectly', being rough with the toaster and not shutting drawers. The snide comments and bitching that you allude to all seem to be coming from the OP.

According to the OED meegraine is the correct pronunciation.

Those little felt circles will dampen the cupboard noise. £1 . Maybe she is deaf and can't hear it. Or is doing it deliberately. Who knows. Buy croissants and hide the toaster.
Head off triggers before they annoy you.
Sounds maddening.