What does this guy want?

[londongrammartalk]

Hi everyone, I was hoping I could get some advice on the following:
I guy I've known for a few years has suddenly been in touch with me. He wanted to meet in the city near us (it's convenient for both of us- we don't live in the same city). After I didn't show much interest, he offered several times to travel to my city- this would take several hours on the train.

The catch? We aren't really friends, more like acquaintances. I don't know where this is coming from. Does this mean what I think it means and I'm naive for even asking? I do know he finds me attractive but this thing is confusing. I hadn't engaged in any flirty behaviour with him. What explains what he is doing?

He wants to go on a date, perhaps have a shag. Is this really so hard to understand?

@HellToTheNope

He wants to go on a date, perhaps have a shag. Is this really so hard to understand?

Normally not, it just seemed weird after quite a long time of knowing him. I thought maybe he just might want to catch up- I guess I am naive!

No one goes hours out of their way to catch up with 'just an aquaintace'.

And if he finds you attractive then yes, he is asking you out on a date.

I suggest 'I'm sorry, but I don't want to waste your time. I'm not interested in meeting you'. If he gives you the 'oh I just meant as friends' bs then you reply 'thank you for thinking of me but no thankyou'.

You don't need a reason why, or to 'give him a chance'. 'I don't want to' is reason enough.

Seems strange, he wants to meet and is happy to put in some effort to meet so he has something in his head
Is he single ? he fancies you and is now able to pursue?
Married and looking for a casual shag ?
Has he suggested a coffee and catch up in the day or a meal/ pub meet ?

Do you just want to read people's, "Ooh, I think he likes you comments"?

Because I'm pretty clueless in this type of scenario and even I'd understand he either wanted a date or a shag.

Sorry but I honestly don't understand why you're confused.

Hi op he likes you - do you like him - would you date him - if so go for a walk with him and see what you think. You dont need to flirt with a man for him to like you.

@GreyCarpet

Do you just want to read people's, "Ooh, I think he likes you comments"?

Because I'm pretty clueless in this type of scenario and even I'd understand he either wanted a date or a shag.

Yikes! I actually am that naive. I meet the opposite sex on a friendly basis so I thought maybe it was the same. I wouldn't even have suspected differently if it wasn't for the long travel time.

Only other thing it could be is if you work in an industry he needs advice in thats expensive! Like are you a lawyer or plastic surgeon or something? Maybe he wants to meet up with you to discuss something he needs your help with for free? So feels he can't just come out with it out of the blue on the phone.

Or he wants a date/sex with you.

He might be lonely?

Do you want to meet him?

It’s not compulsory. You can say no thanks

Yep he’s probably hoping for sex

Yikes! I actually am that naive. I meet the opposite sex on a friendly basis so I thought maybe it was the same. I wouldn't even have suspected differently if it wasn't for the long travel time.

Tbh, I meet a lot of men too on a friendly basis.

That's why I'd know...