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[PC7102]

So this happened pre having my child but just wanted to get other peoples perspectives on this...

So say 4 years ago before I had my child I met up with two friends who had children the same age for a drink. I walked in with one friend ‘A’ as ‘B’ was already there. When we came in B hugged A in greeting but I got completely ignored. B then proceeded to ask A a million questions about children and took over the whole conversation whilst I sat there obviously not really able to contribute much to the conversation (I’m
Very shy too). I think
Their children were around 2 at this time. When we like B again hugged A whilst I stood there being ignored again. I went home and cried my eyes out after this.

I understand that people need someone to talk to about their children but AIBU to think that B was being incredibly rude and insensitive? I just imagine how I would have felt if I was unsuccessfully trying for a baby at the time. I also would never only talk about my child if there was someone childless there who couldn’t contribute to the conversation..

If they did not see each other for a long time, it is understandable that they talked about their kids however it was bad form of them if they excluded you from the conversation.

Some women become incredibly dull after having children and its the on thing that matters to them.

Some women have little opportunity to do much else after having children and so it's all they do have to talk about.

Some women forget their child is only adorable, interesting and amazing to them. If you didn't say anything, she might, reasonably, have assumed you were interested.

That might explain her conversational choices.

It doesn't explain why you sat there offering no alternative.

Or why you cried about it on the basis she hadn't imagined a hypothetical scenario about you and communicated with you accordingly.

Or she isn't a very good friend.

Why is this still bothering you 4 years later?

It was strange that B hugged A and not you I would have felt excluded. I agree they should have included you more in the conversation too. It reads like they weren't bothered you were there which yes would be hurtful. Are you still friends now, have you seen them since?