What makes a good relationship?

[demotedreally]

Things are not going well with my husband at the moment and any discussion about improvements end in a debate about what more he could do around the house and with the children. (Plenty of course)

In an effort to try a different approach, I thought we could try to have a discussion about what is a good relationship. What actions, activities should we be doing to demonstrate commitment and even love. I fear much of it has lapsed if I am honest. Can people offer suggestions?

Anyone?

Tidying up after themselves
Tidying up after the other person if they are ill/stressed/busy in some way prevented from pulling their weight
Listening and communicating well
Generally just being thoughtful and considerate to the other person’s needs

enjoying being in eachothers company and talking positively to eachother. being lighthearted.

doing things for eachother just because you know it's a nice thing to do / look after them.

tidying as you go because u want the house u live in to be nice for both of you.

recognising when eachother has had a difficult day or something going on and knowing that might mean the other person picks up the slack for a day, or gives the person space by taking the kids out.

Listening to each other, respecting the other person's point of view even if you don't agree. Being willing to change your mind if they're right about something.

Being kind to each other. Not trying to score points. Being a partnership, feeling like they've got your back.

What did you like, love and enjoy about each other when you got together and in the early years? What made you each decide the other was the one to marry? Why did you think the other would make a good parent when you decided to have children?

Unless you have always had a rubbish relationship, which I acknowledge is true for some couples, there must be loads of things which made you both think you had a great relationship when you decided to commit to each other for life. Talk about them, why you both think they’ve gone missing, and how you can resurrect them.