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How do you leave a relationship if you have nowhere to go?

14 replies

WalthamstowMum6 · 07/04/2022 19:07

How do you leave a relationship if you have nowhere to go?

OP posts:
thingymaboob · 07/04/2022 19:11

Save some money and organise somewhere to go...

Leggingslife · 07/04/2022 19:12

Do you have a job? If so, you stay at a friend's and organise a rental place. Should take 1-2 weeks max.

thingymaboob · 07/04/2022 19:13

Also, ask them to leave if they've got somewhere to go?

jelly79 · 07/04/2022 19:13

You can always make somewhere

IncompleteSenten · 07/04/2022 19:15

Depends on a lot of things. Is there abuse, in which case there is help out there. Are you working in which case can you save up? Rent a room? Are there children involved in which case can you apply to be the one to stay in the house? Is it rented or owned? Are you married?

Etc

LionSleeps · 07/04/2022 19:33

It's really hard and will depend on what support you have around you and how long you can wait. For me it involved planning and saving so I could be self sufficient, but it's not a quick answer. You need to think about things like a deposit and furnishing somewhere, and as other posters have said, we don't know whether you have children.

If it's more of an emergency then there are people who can help. Thinking of you.

LostPropertySong · 07/04/2022 19:46

Are you SAHM with children?

Question makes no sense otherwise.

Bananalanacake · 07/04/2022 20:49

Who owns the property you live in, does your partner pay equally towards bills and food.

WalthamstowMum6 · 08/04/2022 16:45

@IncompleteSenten

Depends on a lot of things. Is there abuse, in which case there is help out there. Are you working in which case can you save up? Rent a room? Are there children involved in which case can you apply to be the one to stay in the house? Is it rented or owned? Are you married?

Etc

Not married
OP posts:
Giveitall · 08/04/2022 16:51

Not married! No kids I presume?
If you are not being physically abused then bide your time. Revenge is a dish best served cold so start saving now, start looking at accommodation advertisements, get to know what might be possible. Talk to someone you trust. Get your ducks in a row & then when you’ve got everything under control, walk out & don’t look back! Leave when the coast is clear, quietly and purposefully. No dramas, no hotheaded decisions. No shouting, no threats. Quietly leave. It’s empowering, believe me I know. Good luck.

BlackAndPinkNose · 08/04/2022 17:10

However difficult you think it is going to be, it won't be. There is always a way.

Lots of experienced people on here can advise if you give us more info

Survived · 08/04/2022 18:32

If you don't have to leave fast, move from one small task to the next task, each one makes you gradually more independent. This makes it less overwhelming. Hugs from me.

IncompleteSenten · 08/04/2022 18:57

That still leaves a lot of variables
What options you have depend on your circumstances.

TipTopT · 08/04/2022 19:14

Not married could mean anything OP. Not married and working, not working, kids, no kids, working? A pointless post without any circumstances apart from "not married".

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