Alone and Happy but Feel Unusual!

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Presumably this thread will attract similar experiences / people ....

I am more-or-less alone in life (late 50s). I have one relative, hard work but I love, and keep in contact with, no other family. I have severed links with a couple of friends, no bad feelings, but it was necessary. I'm happy on my own and doing my own sorta "free spirit" things. Meeting people more now, socialising in a different way, but enjoy my own company.

Here's the thing though. I'm newly part of a group that includes healing/meditation for others. My co-group members have a list of people from familly/friends they want to focus on, often a long list!! Fine, but when it comes to me, I have (almost no-one). I'm kinda OK with this, but also makes me feel a bit, well, unusual in the group, if that makes sense.

Any (hopefully sensitive!) comments on this?

Nothing wrong with your healing list including people whom you’ve severed ties with.

Healing/meditation is usually about making peace with yourself and coming to terms with any troubles. Perhaps say you’d like to concentrate on gratitude for what you currently have?

Thanks DatingDinosaur. I am at peace with my friendship decisions though, wish them well but no wish to revisit. It’s more to do with a specific list of personal relationships really. I have little to add here - I feel ok with it though, but as I said, unusual. Perhaps just continue regardless. After all it’s truth.

Perhaps you have moved a bit further along the path than they have- already cleared out you relationship drawer, if you will. Swedish death cleaning for people rather than things!

Thanks Pickle. I feel lighter for sure.

I'd be similar to you.

It's because, over recent years, I've removed people (friends and family) who disturb my inner peace (as it were) so I have no relationship issues.

I don't regard anyone (other than my children) as permanent in my life. They are all welcome to stay for as long as their impact one amdy well being is neutral - positive. Once someone becomes a negative, they are gone.

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I hear you, GreyCarpet.

You need more meditation if you're attached to the idea of being 'usual'. Let it go. Nobody cares. Why do you?

I think your feelings of being unusual will pass. You are new to the group so you will compare yourself to others and hence these feelings will arise. Just enjoy the group and try not to let these thoughts get in the way.