so maybe i dont understand this whole status thing.

[pukkapatch]

i keep hearing that sahm have a very low status in life. o th enews, discussions etc.
exceptthat ihavenotfeltthisatall. maybe i dont interact with the smae peopel?
i am no lentil weaving earth mother. in fact, most of the time i am a crap mother. and i never ever say housewife, because i am crap at keeping house. definitly no domestic goddess.
i am very very busy. but also have time to do things like go to the gym. and read. and most working women iknow are envious of that. but maybe i dont know enough?

i guess it depends whre you live and what the people around you are like.

i guess if you're not aware of having a low status then it doesn't count
i like your style, lol

I imagine it depends how often you come across people who tend to sneer at you about it. So much of this is down to personal perception.

so i dont mix in the right circles?

Pukka,just to digress, are you Bangladeshi?
I have a question about Bangladesh if so.

That sneering is a cover for envy!!

God I loved being a SAHM. I felt it was a privilege as so many people can't afford both parents to be out of work. I was so proud to be at home looking after the little baby I'd created. No sense of shame at all.

I felt more peculiar going back to work and certainly didn't give a stuff about work and status and career any more and I'd really cared about it before I had DD.

Since I've become a SAHM, so many people have said how pleased they are for me, and well done to me for making the changes in my life to make it happen. I've never been sneered at, and feel very respected (and I mix with SAHM/Part time/Full time)

I have only come across this view from young childless twenty-somethings and I don't really care what they think anyway and from the messages that come out from the government and I certainly don't care what they think!

see, its you lot i hang around with. you all feel the same as me.

no moondog, i 'm not, but my inlaws are.

I feel very high-status and respected as a SAHM too. (And I'm not even a proper one , just on a year's mat leave).

I think it's far more to do with your own feelings on the matter rather than how others perceive you.....

If you are happy and contented with your role then you will be less likely to either notice potential put downs/ be over sensitive, but if you are the type of person that feels unfulfilled in the home you may read more into what people say or perceive slights against you.

The SAHM at DD's school don't appear to have a low status either.

The sahm thing seems to be a huge issue in the papers and online, but not an issue in real life!

I also haven't fully assimilated into the status conscious middle class yet, so maybe when I do I'll worry more about how my life looks to people I don't care about!

I gave birth 11 weeks ago and I’m breast feeding. I had what seemed to be a heavy period for 4 days.. it started very heavy and ended all of a sudden. I have had no period like symptoms at all.. no ache or pains would never know I was in period except for bleeding. My lochia bleeding gradually stopped and finished at about 6 weeks. Is it possible that this wasn’t a period?